(Closed) Opinions needed!! Grandmother passed…what to do with the money she left me?

posted 5 years ago in Family
  • poll: What to do with the $1,000 my Grandmother left me?
    Save it for my wedding dress : (28 votes)
    74 %
    Offer it to SO to put towards e-ring : (7 votes)
    18 %
    Buy another memento that will remind me of her every day (diamond pendant) : (3 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
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    635 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @sillysillybee:  Either option is good.  If it makes you feel better, I paid for half of my engagement ring because I wanted something that I knew my FI couldnt afford.

    Post # 4
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    9917 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I think it’s a better idea to put it toward your wedding dress.  But the best idea is to send it to me: Peach Acid, 1234 Peachy Place, Peachtopia, PA 19103

     

    Edited to add: I think offering to give it to him for the ring is a bad idea.  First, it will make you seem greedy.  Like, you cannot possibly imagine that whatever he can afford would be good enough.  Second, the ring should come from him.  The dress money will be better augmented by the $1000 than the ring money anyway.

    Post # 5
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    2295 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Dress!

    Post # 6
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    10367 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I think that it’s a wonderful idea to put it towards your wedding dress! What a cool way to honor her.

    Just make sure you factor in the taxes for the money into your budget. I know gifting someone money from your estate after death is quite different than gifting it to them in life, even when it’s a relatively small sum of money.

    Post # 8
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    701 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I personally would save it (not necessarily for your dress).  If you think he would be receptive of the money, and you want to spend it on your ring then go for that. I know some guys will get their egos hurt if their SO wants to contribute to the ring.

    My husband said he wouldn’t have had a problem if I had wanted to contribute.

    Post # 9
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    150 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    What a thoughtful gift.

    Can I offer another suggestion? Put it toward a piece of jewelry that you will keep forever but will buy for yourself. Maybe some diamond earrings or a pendant. That way you will remember your Grandmother whenever you wear them, and can pass them down one day.

    You will only wear the wedding dress once, and I would want something that I could wear and remember with more often. 

    Post # 10
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    4275 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I think it should go towards your dress if you feel that is what would make your grandma happy. You can buy the dress with her in mind and then maybe pass it down to your daughter or another family member.

    Post # 11
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I wouldn’t offer it to him specifically for the ring, but I’d let him know that I came into the money and that “our” budget is a little more relaxed over all due to it.  When my husband was shopping for a ring, (I actually didn’t know he was shopping, but I’d definitely dropped BIG hints I was ‘waiting’)…. but anyways I’m a few years older than him, and have been working for a few year longer and all the while living at home so I had a ton more money saved up than him.  I basically told him “we” don’t have to worry about the e-ring money that “we” could easily afford it.  Meaning, even if he had to wipe out “his” savings for it, my money was soon to be our anyways, so don’t let his “own” money be the limiting factor.  Money is just money, you’ve come into some, and whether it’s spent directly or indirectly on anything, it helps out in the big picture.

    Post # 13
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I think the dress option is the best between the two; otherwise perhaps buy yourself a separate piece of jewelry you can remember her by? Maybe a RHR? or a necklace?

    Post # 14
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    899 posts
    Busy bee

    if it were me it would mean a lot more for the money to go towards the dress

    Post # 15
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    well, my thoughts are…..

    The ring you will wear everyday, and look at many many times a day…. and would think of her when you see it…. however the ring should make you think of your hubby. and he might view it as an insult that you didnt feel like he could buy you a good enought ring.

     

    the dress….. you will only wear once. however i do believe you should look amazing on your day. but you will only wear it once….

     

    I think you should spend it on something you will use/wear more. that way you can always think of her.

    But out of your two options you gave me, ill choose dress. wouldnt want to insult your fiance.

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