Post # 1
Hi bees 🙂
Now me and my SOare going to be getting engaged soon, he already has the ring and I think it will happen on our anniversary in August. The issue is my sister is getting married at the end of September (she is having a Destination Wedding just her and her SO) and I am worried that it is the wrong thing to do to get engaged before she gets married? Am I over-thinking it or is it right to be worried about upsetting her? It is the first wedding for us both, and I don’t want to let my excitement about getting engaged impact on my judgement regarding my sister. Argh! Decisions! The flip side is a little part of me thinks that if we wait until after her wedding it may look like we have just got engaged because of that? I just can’t think straight! Help please ladies 🙂 xx
Post # 3
I know a few friends who waited, till after the sibblings wedding. But its really onyl waiting a month, maybe waite… there would be a chance that at the wedding everyone would want to see ur ring, and she may feel like u r taking from her day.
Post # 4
Well I’m getting married at the end of September, and personally I wouldn’t mind if my brother (my only sibling) happened to get engaged in August. I think it’s incredibly sweet to get engaged on your anniversary! I would just let the proposal happen when it happens, don’t overthink it! 🙂
Post # 5
I would suggest avoiding making your big announcement the week before your sister’s wedding, when she, and perhaps others in your family, will be focusing on last-minute details of your sister’s private, destination wedding. However, I think any time before that should be fine. I don’t think you need to wait until after her wedding to get engaged.
Post # 6
Get engaged whenever is right for you — but just be careful how you announce it! Maybe wait until after her wedding to announce it to extended family so you don’t steal her thunder.
Post # 7
@abbie017: I agree with this. I would also take into account the reverse–her wedding might overshadow your engagement. No offense to her, but you both deserve the proper amount of excitement.
Post # 8
Honestly, get engaged and be happy about it. Don’t worry. It is a month and a half between the two and her wedding will be all about her. If you get engaged in August, celebrate and be happy. I would not start putting down deposits, asking your parents about contributing, or doing formal planning right away (that does not mean you can’t do some unofficial quiet planning!)
Then make sure you turn your focus to your sister and make her wedding celebrations about her. Don’t mention your wedding or engagement at all. If others ask about it, be polite, sweet, and turn the conversation back to your sister. Then 2-3 weeks after her wedding, you can start planning yours.
Post # 9
Whats up with the poll? Only have one option!
Anyway, i would wait. Your sister will appreciate it and your engagament wont be overshadowed.
Post # 11
My mom was getting re-married and my sister’s boyfriend decided to propose to her the morning of the wedding. I understand the whole “wedding” inspiration, but in my book, that was really bad form. My mom said she was totally fine with it, but I was pissed. I was happy for my sister, but something about that really irked me. I think you should do it anytime you want, but just be aware, toes may be stepped on.
Post # 12
If she is eloping, I don’t really see how getting engaged could be construed as stealing her thunder, as long as you give her a window of about a week.
Post # 13
I don’t think you could put your life on hold 😉 Let this be a happy moment for both of you 🙂