Post # 1
Hi bees !
So I’m pretty set on having a very intimate wedding with just me FI and our immediate families, I live in australia so a low key beach wedding is an affordable way for us to have our perfect day!
Both me and FI are originally from the UK so as much as I’d love my extended family and friends to be at my wedding in australia I know it wouldnt really be possible due to the huge flight costs etc. So I would love to have our small wedding in Australia and then have an informal party to celebrate in the uk!
one of the problems I have with this idea is that I really don’t want to miss out on my ‘hen do’ ( bachelorette ) as I won’t be going to the uk before my wedding. I was thinking of having our uk party on our one year wedding anniversary and wondered what bees thought about having a hen do before this party so a long time after my actual wedding day?
I would love to hear your thoughts on this idea? Also Ive seen some posts about US bridal showers etc in regards to people being ‘gift grabby’ I would like to add that I think the UK doesnt really have a gift giving culture for bridal showers/ hen dos so in no way is this because I would like gifts, it is to celebrate with my friends ! 🙂
also what are your thoughts on having our marriage celebration party a year on from our wedding… Too long or is this ok?
Post # 3
I think it’d be fun, but I feel like at that point it would just be a girls’ night. I don’t see the point in calling it a hen do when you’re already married. I mean, do you still plan on doing “bachelorette” type things?
Post # 4
HonoraryNerd: I was hoping to do bachelorette type things yes! I just don’t want to miss out and feel like I would regret not having one! Thanks for your reply 🙂
Post # 5
Ozzygirl17: Have any of your friends mentioned throwing you a hen’s in Australia? Hen’s are a little more relaxed in Australia and have an entirely different set of etiquette than the USA.
I had an intimate wedding (just friends and close freinds) and my netball friends ended up throwing me a suprise hen’s even though none of them were invited to the wedding.
As to your hen’s one year later. It just seems a bit pointless to me as you are already married so not really celebrating the end of not being married. Maybe just have a girls night out instead.
Post # 6
Ozzygirl17: I did not do the bach party, shower, or any other wedding related parties, and I don’t miss any of it! I’d just call it a girls night out with your friends rather than a hen do. It can consist of the same things I’m guessing.
A celebration party one year later seems perfectly fine. Might have to call it a one year anniversary party at that point rather than a post-celebration party. I have friends that did their on their 2 year anniversary.
Post # 7
@j_jaye yes I think my australian friends would be happy to celebrate with me but they’re not my ‘best friends’ you know what I mean?! I know what you mean about a girls night out instead as i wouldn’t really be celebrating the end of my marriage !
@sienna76 thanks for your reply, yeh I think calling it a one year anniversary party is a good idea ! 🙂
Post # 8
I know what you mean Sharky, we actually live in the UK but are from Ireland and will only be telling family at Christmas – a few weeks before we elope in Mexico. So no time for a hen and we’re keeping it secret from friends. I’ll be 30 in 2016 though so I think I’m going to try to plan a bigger party/weekend away with my sisters then (they are the ones I’m really gonna miss partying with) Instead of having a post-wedding hen I’d probably try to plan something around your birthday or another occassion that can be all about you. Willy straws and all!!!