Opinions on possible BM Gifts

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 4
1809 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Yes! I’d like it as a BM gift.

Post # 5
393 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@mmr66:  I was thinking of doing the same thing! I wasn’t sure if I should get them a set and a nice note or a couple of smaller things. One idea would be, Find similar jewlery sets but get them differerent gemstones, like birthday months. That way they are different, but they will be similar in style. 

Post # 7
7242 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@mmr66:  I like it. It’s not necessarily my exact style, but it kind of classic with a twist, which means I could totally see myself wearing them again to another fancy event. Good deal too!

Post # 8
393 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@mmr66:  well I love the set personally 🙂 I saw on o.co they had a few different styles that came with gemstone options. They were all under $60! So if you decide to return the set check out overstock! 

Post # 9
5068 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

It’s a lovely gift. 

Post # 10
651 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Those are lovely. However, I have received jewelry as a BM thank you gift two times before and have never worn either set after the wedding. If you think your girls will get wear out of these after, then go for it. If not, I’d consider something else.

Post # 11
45169 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Normally, my opinion would be that jewelry they are exected to wear at the wedding is a gift for you, not them. This set however, is classic in design, so they would surely wear it again, at least as separate pieces.

Post # 12
6798 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

The set is nice but if I’m expected to wear it for the wedding then I won’t count it as a gift. It’s more for you/your photos than a treat for me..

Post # 13
1024 posts
Bumble bee

They’re not my personal style, but if you think they suit your bridesmaids’ style (versus just matching with the dress), then I’d say that’s a good gift 🙂

Post # 15
3265 posts
Sugar bee

The question you need to ask yourself to know if it’s a good gift is: Would you be getting all of these girls, exactly this same, matching gift if the occasion was birthdays or Christmas?

If the answer is no, then it’s for your wedding and not a gift. A gift comes with no strings or expectations attached.

If the answer is yes that they will all love this (with no proviso of, it matches the dresses, or your colours, or your wedding at all), then it’s probably a good gift.

Post # 16
2081 posts
Buzzing bee

Do absolutely all of your bridesmaids wear silver?  I never wear silver because it washes out on my skin/is practically invisible in photos, so, no matter how nice a set of silver jewelry is, I’d wear it at your wedding and then put it in a drawer and never touch it again (or, more likely, give it to my sister, who can wear silver).

I do agree w/PP that it is a lovely, classic set and if your bridesmaids all regularly wear silver, then there is a strong chance that they will get use from the set beyond your wedding.  However, I think that @andielovesj: really nailed it in her post–the key thing to consider is whether or not the style and type of pieces in this set really genuinely fit all the people in the wedding party.

ETA: I have only ever received the jewelry that I was supposed to wear as a BM gift.  None of it was to my style and most of it was cheap and either broke or irritated my skin, so I’ve never worn any of the pieces after the respective weddings.  In neither case was I at all irritated with the brides, but, then again, they both had very minimal expectations for their bridal party.  Also, neither of them went on about how “perfect” this was for me or about how much they thought of me while picking the gifts–had they engaged in those sugary lies while presenting me something that anyone who has any claim on knowing me well knows I would never choose for myself, the whole situation would have been much more irritating.


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