Opinions on this situation? Stay out of it?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I would stay out of it.  Nothing is worse than having an awkward and unwanted financial conversation with someone outside of your immedite family.  They will work it out.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@hollyberry4:  this is tricky. if you talk to her about it, it can go good or bad. My guess it will go bad because she will probably be thinking that your jealous, which I know is not the case at all. 

I think its weird to have a diamond on each hand, maybe you can suggest that she get it turned into a necklace instead? 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Slybrarian:  I agree – I’d stay well out of this one!

Post # 6
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11379 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

i’d stay out of it.  leave to the individuals directly involved.

 

Post # 7
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671 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Stay out of it!  It is between her and FI!!!  If she were to directly ask you, maybe give an opinion – but other than that, keep mum!

 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I don’t know – I think it would depend on how close friends I was with her. If it’s my BFF and she is acting like a spoiled dumbass, I will call her out on it.  The reverse holds true as well. This would never BE me, but if it was I would appreciate my VERY close friend giving me some perspective. May not help but at least you tried!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Maybe … well, you already mentioned how it will be expensive for he FI. I donnow. That statement is ccertainly a “true colors” statement. I guess, personally I would keep out of it and reevaluate my friendship with this girl

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@hollyberry4:  Stay out of it. Although maybe your DH could offer that going into debt for a ring isn’t smart and that its his friend who sets the budget. He can tell his greedzilla she can have whatever she wants within that budget. 

She sure doesn’t sound lovable and I feel sorry for her poor fiancé. 

Post # 11
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Blushing bee

@Mrs. Myrtle Beach:  I totally agree. A true friend is someone who will not only “be real” with you but also won’t judge you. Being honest but not offensive can be a very hard line to walk. I think difficult moments like this have to be handled in love and not in accusation. A true friend will tell you what you are doing wrong, try their hardest to help but also be there to comfort you afterwards. “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another” sometimes the relationships in our lives are tested and as a result become stronger.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

@hollyberry4:  Stay out of it, but I agree she isn’t being very nice.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

@hollyberry4:  I would talk to her since she’s your friend. I mean, not to argue, but to ask her why she changed her mind, and wasn’t there miscommunication between what her FI told her and what she understood he meant ? If she stands her ground, there’s nothing else you can do. 

Post # 15
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

That’s just stupid, especially if they are combining finances.  As a couple, those decisions would effect her too even of they don’t combine.   I’d probably have my husband talk to the guy about rings in general, but not specifically mention this situation.

Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Hopefully she’ll change her mind when she gets a wake-up call as to how expensive rings really are!

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