Post # 1
I am a regular poster on the Bee, but am using a different name for privacy reasons.
My fiance proposed and it was really sweet like I had always wanted, but I am having some problems with my ring. The carat weight is exactly what I wanted. I’m not into big diamonds, so it has nothing to do with that.
My problem is that my ring is a solitaire and the diamond is obviously the focal point, but it is a J in color, I2 in clarity, and just a fair cut. I love my fiance, loved his proposal, and love the style, carat of my ring, but the diamond really doesn’t look so good. There is a black spot right in the center.
I feel like everyone is judging my fiance when they look at my ring. We are on a tight budget and I honestly believe he thought he was getting me exactly what I wanted, since I had never mentioned anything about the 4 C’s and I know he knows 0 about diamonds.
Should I keep the diamond because it is what he gave me and ignore everyone else (including sometimes myself when I’m having a bad day) or should I purchase myself a better diamond and have it set? I really don’t have much money with the wedding planning.
What would you do? I’m pretty sentimental normally.
Thanks for your help.
Post # 3
You could keep the ring if you can’t afford another & want the one he bought you. Then later on down the line for an anniversary get a new diamond set in it & use the current one for a necklace or something alone those lines.
Maybe you could talk to him about it now though? Trade the diamond in for a smaller carat weight with better color/clarity.
My diamond is a J in color. But it sparkles to no end. Maybe you could go up one in color & alot in clarity for the same price as your current diamond for a smaller carat weight?
Post # 4
I don’t recommend doing anything behind your FI’s back… If he found out you bought a different diamond, he might be hurt. I would talk to him about it. He loves you and wants you to be happy. Then, when it’s fiscally possible, upgrade that diamond (not the ring). Most jewelers will let you use the value of your current diamond towards another diamond.
If you decide to upgrade, I would focus on the clarity, because a J color isn’t that noticeable.
Post # 5
It is the cut and clarity that really bother me, not so much the color. I just wish it sparkled like I see other diamonds sparkle. That may be selfish since we are on such a tight budget.
I really can’t go down in carat size. My diamond is a 1/5 carat.
Thanks for the help though!
Post # 6
Maybe it just needs a good cleaning? Do you have pictures? Sometimes all it takes is the right light or something for a diamond to really shine.
Post # 7
What is the shape of the diamond? I may have missed it but I didn’t see it in your post.
Post # 8
@OpinionPlez: i have a similar problem, i love my ring, the style an all but the diamond quality isn’t good, it wasn’t expensive by anymeans but i love the ring. fi gets a like upset that he couldn’t get something more expensive. he has offered to replace the diamond in the future, but not until after the wedding so we can afford to have it done. i tell him the ring is lovely as it is, but he still grummbles that it’s not what he would have got me if he had more money to do so. i don’t know whether to dicorage this is i’m happy but with the offer of a bigger diamond…. after all i’m just a girl lol.
maybe this could be the way forward for you…. mine wil be done for my 1st anniversary if i decide to get it done.
Post # 9
I had the same dilemma before we got married. My (then) FI had bought me a wedding set, but I could see black spots in the diamond. Now I’m not a big jewelry person, the set is very simple and I loved it. But the black spots bothered me and I didn’t know what to do about it.
When we were on our way to take it to the store to get it resized so that it would fit me at the wedding, I decided to tell him.
Turns out he had noticed it too and it was bothering him but he didn’t know what to do. We tried to exchange it at the store, but they weren’t being super helpful so we completely returned it and bought the same set in another store; they let him check the diamond with their special magnifier and all.
Even when the diamond is not the best clarity/color, it doesn’t mean it has to have black spots in it. There are no inclusions that can be seen in my new ring.
My friend had her ring resized and when she picked it up, it turns out they had not resized the original ring, they just gave her another one that was a better size. Turns out the new ring had black spots in the center stone as well. They returned it.
Post # 10
You should love the ring your future husband gave you and forget what anyone else says.
Post # 11
The only thing that matters is if you love it, don’t change it. It’s understandable that it’s hard sometimes to tune out other people but in the end, their opinions shouldn’t matter.
Post # 12
I don’t have any pictures yet.
The closer I look at it, the more I think the black in the center is being caused by light leaking out of the bottom of the diamond and may not be an inclusion. Does anyone know anything about that?
I probably won’t change my ring, at least maybe until our 1st year anniversary. I could always just wear my wedding band after the wedding as well I guess.
Post # 13
@MrsFuzzyFace: It’s a princess cut.
Post # 14
I’d keep it until you’re in the finacial position to do otherwise. Why spend money when you don’t have any?
Post # 15
Would you be open to any diamond alternatives to replace it with until you can afford a real diamond of the C’s you want? I know lots of people do this until they can afford the diamond they want, and no one can tell.
Also, be open and honest with him. I believe he will understand as long as you present it well.
Post # 16
@AmeliaBedelia: I would be open to alternatives. If I chose a simulated diamond, would a regular jeweler set it?