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There will be only 25ppl... some don't drink and some do... some drink more then others... we're thinking 2reds...2whites (back ups just incase) 2 cases of beer (one case put out at a time) and a case of mixers..... so to me that is alot of alcohol... i haven't sat down and figured out how many drinks that is per person which i probably should do but yeah
I just can't imagine people bringing their own, so maybe that's why it seems like it would be weird to me.
Maybe "We'll provide food and drinks, all you need to do is show up." Would look more appropriate.
because it'll be an invitation like all our other party invites and everyone ALWAYS brings their own alcohol... like i said ppl won't know it's got anything to do with a wedding so yeah they will think they are coming to a BBQ Dinner... i was also going to have ppl bring a plate too...
I think it's fine to ask ppl not to bring more alcohol, but I think "don't bring any alcohol" on the invites seems a little ... weird? straightforward? I like the idea of wording it something like, "Don't worry, we've got the alcohol covered this time" (a positive instead of negative statement) and then spreading the word verbally not to bring alcohol.
I think it's only necessary to mention BYOB when you actually want people to bring their own. Since you don't want them bringing any there's no need to mention on the invite. if someone asks when they RSVP just tell them it isn't necessary because you'll be supplying the beverages.
LOL well in the past i've never put BYO Alcohol... people just bring it... i guess it's just assumed that it's a party so you bring your own alcohol.
@daydreamerwanderer - yeah i like the positive instead of a negitive thing
what about something like... "bring a plate of food and we'll supply the booze" ?LOL!!
i have no idea LOL
i think it maybe taking away from the specialness of the occasion to write "No BYOB" on your wedding invite, even if it is more casual. Can you spread this by word of mouth instead?
I would just incorporate it into the wording like, "Join us for finger-lickin food and drinks" or something like that. Wording it "No BYO" sounds like you're prohibiting your friends from doing something, and while you kind of are, you're actually a. making things easier on them, and b. giving them a gift! "No BYO" also implies (at least to me) that there won't be any alcohol at the event at all.
please forget that it's a wedding thing..... our guests won't know they are coming to celebrate that we got married that morning. they have no idea we're getting married then...
it'll just be a "BBQ DINNER" invite :)
mum knows now because i found out she had been putting money away for the wedding so i told her that we are running away in the morning but celebrating with everyone that evening but she has been told NOT to tell anyone :)
she is happy that we are doing what we want :)
very exciting...do you think she'll actually be able to keep it to herself?? she better!!
I think it would be easier if you just said "No need to bring anything - we are supplying all food and drinks". That means you can't also ask people to bring a plate, but of course if you have a few friends who offer to bring a salad or whatever you can graciously accept :) But otherwise I think wording it this way is best. As an Aussie I totally understand that everyone will assume BYOB (especially in younger age groups) unless you say otherwise!
I love this! Everyone will be so surprised!! I wish I could see people's faces when you tell them!
I don't know how much your friends and family drink,,,and you said some do and some don't...but that would not be enough alcohol for my friends and family :-) I don't know how important it is to you to have enough alcohol (or maybe it isn't at all) but I would get more. I don't know what the laws are where you live but we can take back unopened bottles of liquor and unopened cases of beer here. I would consider buying more just in case and taking back any extras.
HA HA THATS AWESOME! I wish we could take back unopens alcohol LOL I will actually sit down and figure out each person approx how much they will drink and how much we will buy.
@mountainbride - well normally at BBQ's everyone would bring a plate if asked... if i don't put it on the invite we'll only have meat and breadrolls LOL mum is bringing the BBQ and half the meat and we are suppling the other half of meat and some salads and breadrolls.... do you think this is enough.... normally when ppl get asked to bring a plate they normally bring nibble type finger food.
@MsMeowerson - yeah she will keep it to herself lol, she has already told me a few ppl have asked "what is happening with Juliette and Craig? are they actually going to get married?" and my mum response has been "oh i dont know, they haven't told me anything" LMAO
I've let her help me with somethings... which has made her happy. She's helping me look for shoes at the moment.
I think if you are going to tell people to not bring their own, you need to be sure to have enough variety of what people will want to drink. However, because people don't know it's a wedding, people may still bring their own (even if you put it on the invite) because they don't realize it is something special...Are you going to tell them not to bring it in??? I understand your desire to not have people getting completely wasted, but you also shouldn't be worried about policing what people are drinking. If it's only your closest friends/family they'll want to celebrate with you...So what if a couple people drink a bit more than they should, its a celebration 
. Good luck!
if they bring it they bring it, i won't stop them bringing it in.
I dont mind ppl getting drunk, i'm thinking about our many other parties we have had here (with basically the same group of people) and 99% of everything gets past the point of "nice drunk" and being completely smashed.... things end up broken etc. lol
but like i have been suggested i will put it in a positive way instead of saying NO BYO!
thanks for the advice
Yeah I def agree that "No BYOA" seems like there won't be any there and seems really weird to put. I'd just put "All Food and Drinks will be provided, just bring yourself! Hope to see you"
I agree with camrie that a note that all food and drink will be provided makes more sense to me than telling them to not bring alcohol.
If you still want to encourage people to bring a plate of something to eat, I like the "bring a plate and we'll supply the booze!". Very casual wording, like it really is a backyard BBQ party - I'd never in a million years think an invite that included the word booze was for a wedding reception! :)
@futureKMM - yeah i think i will word it that way.... Oh i'm happy now i've got that sorted.....
and i'm so glad i asked and didn't just go ahead and put NO BYO!! LOL :)
Once again thank you for the opinions :) I'll put up my invites when i get them done.
I sat down and worked out approx how much alcohol to buy... FI said put about 6 beers per beer drinker (i know some won't drink that much) and about a bottle per wine drink (once again... some might not drink that much wine) and 6 mixers per mixer drinker.... so i'm getting 6 bottles of wine (3red3white) 3 cases of beer and 1 case of mixers... perfect!
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Hello my lovely Bees
I was talking to my FI about food and stuff for our "BBQ Dinner" announcement reception party thing lol... we both are going to supply beer and wine and possibly some mixers, I said that i want to put "NO byo alcohol" on our "BBQ Dinner" invites.. FI said thats fine and agrees... my reason for this is, while i want everyone to have a good time and drink if they want i dont want people getting completely smashed.... many of our parties in the past have been byo plus we've supplied a small amount and ppl getting completely smashed and glasses get broken and what not.
Do you think it's a fair enough reason to have "NO byo" when we're supplying alcohol?
Would you find it weird/rude to see an invite with "NO byo"? (remembering no one knows what they are coming over for... they will be thinking they have been invited for a bbq dinner)