Opinions please: Reception after Elopement?

posted 3 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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10219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Hi @simplicitea:  First and foremost, I see that you are NEW to WBee… so a BIG Welcome to “the Hive”

I am a bit of an Etiquette Snob here… lol

In so much as I know much about “Traditional” Etiquette and I give my POV with some down to earth advice too (what the consequences are if you go against the grain)

First the good news…

You can ABSOLUTELY do a Reception after the Wedding at a later date…

It is then known as a Reception (if someone else Hosts… which is “Most” Polite… cause one doesn’t normally hold a party of such magnitude to honour oneself)

OR it is known as a Wedding Celebration if one is hosting on one’s own.

If you are Hosting your own Wedding Celebration… then there should be NO MENTION WHATSOEVER OF GIFTS (Not even if someone should ask).  So NO Registry in this scenario.

But if you find someone else to act as Host, then YES you could certainly register for Gifts.

But as always, it shouldn’t be YOU YOURSELF MENTION to anyone… your nearest & dearest should be putting that info out there thru word of mouth (or you can very subtly mention it on your Wedding Website “The Bride & Groom are Registered at ___”  And it should never be more than 2 places… preferably quite different from one another… ie Department Store & Sporting Goods for example)

Anyhow which ever you go with… Reception or Celebration do know that you can make it quite Wedding-like if you wish… Wedding Attire – Flowers – Decor – Wedding Cake – Toast – Speaches – First Dance etc.

You can also make it as BIG or little, Formal or informal an event as you’d like.  Choose your Invitations to reflect that / set the tone / mood.

If you give me an idea of your overall Vision… I can make suggestions of appropriate wording for you.

Hope this helps,

 

Post # 5
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3210 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Hey! We are having an intimate wedding (immediate family only) and then having larger receptions afterward (one in FI’s hometown and one in mine).

Our invitations say:

Front: We’re tying the knot! Please join us for a reception blahblah…

Back: Sweet and Mr. Sweet will be married in a small ceremony on January 6. We hope you’ll join us the following weekend for a casual family reception to celebrate their new life together. Blahblahdetails…

We had to do them in this kind of future tense (rather than “Sweet and Mr. Sweet are married!”) because we had to send out the invitations like two months before the actual party–so like 1.5 months BEFORE we’re married.

We are not registering, but that is in part because we live in a 300 sq ft apartment and seriously cannot get any more stuff, haha. We are telling people that gifts are not expected. If they get us a gift or give us money/gift cards, we will graciously accept them. I think it’s totally fine to register, though–just don’t put it on anything and let it spread via word of mouth. I would also be very gracious about saying that you’re not expecting anything!

Post # 6
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10219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

@simplicitea:  & @howsweetitis:  

Either of these will do.

For our own Back Home Reception we sent out our Invites over Christmas (while we were away Eloping)

They basically said:

Mr TT and Miss R
are eloping & getting married

Celebrate with us upon our return

Date – Time – Location

RVSP

Ours was very casual, the RSVPs went to our Wedding Website which was handy as I was collecting data while we were on our Honeymoon… and we also included Directions and other info for our Guests to refer to.

It was a fabulous evening … and were were overwhelmed by the generosity of our Family & Friends who came out in the middle of a snowstorm to celebrate with us.

It was an AWESOME event.

 

Post # 8
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1410 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@simplicitea:  A majority of people that I’ve known to elope have had a reception at home either right after returning or within a couple of months. Just because people can’t be there to witness it (destination elopement) doesn’t mean they won’t want to celebrate with you.

Recently, 2 couples in our family have “eloped” but didn’t have a reception or celebration and I was bummed about the no reception. 

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