Opinions regarding exceptions to adult reception?

posted 3 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@marie2534:  We are inviting our nieces only. So I guess thats an exception.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@marie2534:  it’s his sibling, I think that is an ok exception. If anyone says anything just say “we wanted


brother to be there”. That’s immediate family. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee

@marie2534:  I would just be worried that the kid would be so bored. There wont be any other kids there for them to play with. What will he do all night? I agree with you though, it does defeat the purpose but for siblings I would make an exception for them, they are your immediate family who should be at your wedding.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

…. isn’t his father’s 6-year-old kid from a different marriage your FI’s brother?  Half-brother, sure, but still, I think it would keep peace between FI and his father.  If I didn’t invite my kid brother (also a half-brother) shit would hit the fan because he’d miss all those family pictures and my stepdad would feel slighted.  Idk.  I think it’s different in this case because he’s family, not just a friend’s kid.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

I would consider a sibling an absolute MUST to the exception list!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

I think siblings are of course a perfect and reasonable exception, but I think you need to be prepared to do a LOT of explaining. If someone made special arrangements because of the adult only reception, and then they see a kid there, they’re probably going to be kind of upset in the “why does that kid get to be here but mine doesnt” way. 

On the flip side though and adult only party with ONE 6 year old sounds like a total drag for the 6 year old. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee

Half brother is an exception!  He will be a part of your extended family, and no one will think a thing of it!  At 6, he is old enough to have fun, and be quiet during the ceremony!  Excluding this Kid would not be good… Excluding friends toddlers or random pre-teens with no relationship with you is different than a sibling!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@marie2534:  I’d say immediate family is an obvious exception- while the kid won’t care either way, his parents will, and as he grows up, remembering/seeing pics that he was at his brother’s wedding will be a positive family bonding thing. 

There’s a difference between allowing children to attend as a convenience for your guests and allowing children because the child himself is an important member of the immediate family. Regardless of formality level, siblings should be there.

 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

By all means, the brother should be there. We made exceptions for my nieces.

Too bad iif someone else gets upset about it.

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

We started the cut off at 16 [16 and older are invited, any younger and they aren’t], and of course, our flower girl will be invited.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@marie2534:  that’s his brother – immediate family, not extended family like nieces. I think your fiancé will regret leaving his half sibling out. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

IMO siblings are an automatic no brainer  exception. The 6 yr old is immediate family.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I remember my mom was up in a tizzy when I didn’t want to invite my older teen cousin. She was 18 or 19 at the time I think. My cut off was 21, but more importantly “did I want them there?” She argued because my husband’s 13 y o sister was invited. Duh! That’s his sister. Siblings are different than cousins, neices and nephews, God kids, and friends’ kids.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Examples of acceptable exceptions:

1. Siblings of the bride and groom

2. First cousins of the bride and groom

3. Children who are in the wedding party

4. Infants (<1yr), especially if they are breastfed

 

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