(Closed) Opposite Sex Friends – possible?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Is it possible?
    No, men and women can NEVER be just friends : (45 votes)
    19 %
    Yes, men and women can be friends just like two men or two women : (194 votes)
    81 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    2783 posts
    Sugar bee

    @Chrysoberyl:  my SO is friends with a girl. They were friends long before we met. They have never and will never have any romantic feelings towards one another and I’m not threatened by her at all. They go out for drinks sometimes and it’s fine. Being just friends is totally possible

    Post # 4
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    1817 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I good portion of my friends are males and DH doesn’t care…infact half of them are my exes lol. Turns out they are great guys just shitty boyfriends and so we turned into amazing friends. DH likes them because they provide company for me when I game since he isn’t into gaming as much as me.

    Post # 5
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    3089 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    It’s absolutely possible.  Three of my best friends are guys.  DH does not care at all.  He hangs out with them without me sometimes and vice versa!

    Post # 6
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    94 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I have always been a tomboy, always valued my guy friends. I have so many of them that have always been there for me. Would I have dated any of them? No, because we are different people in a romantic sense. They are just as important to me as my lady friends, though, and sometimes have great perspective on things that women just don’t.

    Post # 7
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    771 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    The only guys I have truly been friends with in my life-ie. go out alone with- i have had crushes or some sort of feelings for. The guys who are my acquaintances are truly just that but I never accepted an invite or been given one for furthering those relationships. Even if people do not admit it- there is a level of attraction that may go away but I think opposite sex friends are not always just friends

    Post # 8
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    1969 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    One of my best friends is a guy.  We’ve been friends for 13 yrs.  Thats 8 years longer than I’ve known my SO.  So Bestfriend was already an established fixture in my life, when SO & I started our relationship.  To be completely honest, if my SO had an issue with me being bestfriends with a guy, then I would have told him to kick rocks very early on in our relationship. 

    That said, there is a bit of a double standard.  I hate when SO makes new girl friends. I pride myself on being somewhat of a modern woman, so I don’t try to make him not hang out with girls or anything like that.  But deep down, I just don’t trust them heffas!  It has nothing to do with the women themselves.  I believe it has more to do what the way I was raised.  Coming up all I would hear my momma & my aunties say was: “don’t you ever trust another woman up under your man”.  For this reason, I simply don’t trust other women like that.  

    Post # 9
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    980 posts
    Busy bee

    Yes. A thousand times yes. Humans do have thoughts and emotions which are not directly related to sex. You shouldn’t be suspicious of every member of the opposite sex or anyone who is gay. How ridiculous! 

    Post # 10
    Member
    6510 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Yes, I think it is possible. I work with almost all men and also attended school with almost all men so most of my friends are male.

    Post # 11
    Member
    1111 posts
    Bumble bee

    I think it’s possible. My FI and I have a mutual best friend who is a guy. But I think it’s all about circumstance. If you or the other person have or ever had an attraction to one another it can get tricky. 

    Post # 12
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    671 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I think they can be friends and it’s OK but I think spending nights out alone man and woman when one or both are in a relationship is not OK. Opens the door for problems which a relationship should be more important to the person to sacrifice this one simple thing.

    Post # 13
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    3222 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    Most of my friends are men, save for my two best girlfriends. I’m very feminine, but just happen to have dude friends. 

    Since I’ve entered a profession program, many of the friends I spend 8+ hours a day with are men that I’ve only known for about a year. Most have met my FH, some haven’t, but everyone accepts that I’m off the market. They don’t hit on me, we don’t cross boundaries, and I can count on them to always have my back when we go out drinking. 

    Post # 14
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    490 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Totally possible. My best friend is a guy. A gay guy, but still a guy. He was my first choice to stand up with me at my wedding. If I’d met some of my female friends earlier in life (coworkers, DH’s friend’s wives) things might be different. 

    Post # 15
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    2687 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID

    @Chrysoberyl:  I hate when people say opposite sex can’t be friends within feelings being involved. That implies that you’re going to develop feelings for EVERY person of the opposite sex that you run into/hang out with… that’s just simply not the case. 

    Post # 16
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    135 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    My bestf friend is gay, however even he used to have a crush on me at some point in our lives. Now I refuse to be “friends” with guys unless FI and I are both friends with the person. 

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