(Closed) Opposite-sex friends

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: How many friends of the opposite sex do you have? Your SO?
    I don't have any : (8 votes)
    6 %
    SO doesn't have any : (16 votes)
    12 %
    I have 1-2 : (22 votes)
    16 %
    SO has 1-2 : (23 votes)
    17 %
    I have 3-4 : (18 votes)
    13 %
    SO has 3-4 : (17 votes)
    13 %
    I have 5-6 : (14 votes)
    10 %
    SO has 5-6 : (11 votes)
    8 %
    I have 7-8 : (5 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    443 posts
    Helper bee

    SO doesn’t really have any, but it wouldn’t bother me if he did.  I think it comes down to trust.  I have 2 bffs of who are male, 1 is gay and 1 is straight.  SO doesn’t seem to mind either one.

    Post # 4
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    42 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I have way more girl friends than guys, but I think that might stem from going to an all-girl school most of my life 🙂 FH has a good mix of both. Now that our friends have merged though its about even, he still has several that I don’t know but it doesn’t bother me.

    Post # 5
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    14186 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I attended a 75% male university–i have plenty of guy friends. I also work with all men. DH just has one or two female friends from work–after spending 4+ years in the Army, life has been a sausage fest for him.

    Neither of us mind.

    Post # 6
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    3709 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I have 3 REALLY close male friends that I have known for 10, 12, and 16 years respectively. FI has about 5 or 6 female friends that he speaks to regularly. Only one of them is in the same city though. 

    We met all of our friends of the opposite sex prior to meeting each other so I would call them mutual friends, but we each know about them. 

    Post # 7
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    2392 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I didn’t do a careful count but I am pretty sure it is 11+ for both of us, as long as you are counting both close and not-so-close friends.  We both have at least a couple of very close friends of the opposite sex.  Some of these are people we used to date or where there was some history, some of them are people with whom it’s always been 100% platonic.  We’re both pretty gender-blind in who we’re friends with, and both pretty good at staying friends with people we’ve dated.  I am pretty sure I could never be with anyone who had issues with this. 

    Post # 8
    Member
    6351 posts
    Bee Keeper

    FI’s family has been really close friends with another family for years. Their daughter and him are really close. I have a lot of guy friends because that’s how my “clique” of friends work.

    Post # 8
    Member
    6351 posts
    Bee Keeper

    FI’s family has been really close friends with another family for years. Their daughter and him are really close. I have a lot of guy friends because that’s how my “clique” of friends work.

    Post # 9
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    7587 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I had a “bridesman”. My close female to male friend ratio is probably 50/50. DH has 3 female friends that he has had since he was a kid. It’s never bothered me at all. However, “new” female friends at times make me nervous. Although, none have ever really stuck.

    Post # 10
    Member
    767 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    All of my close friends are women. I do hang out with guys and have had guy friends off an on through the years, but there’s few guys I would actively contact to hang out with. I do hang out with my FI’s friends, my brothers, and their friends. I just don’t have any close guy friends myself… 

    My FI doesn’t really have any friends that are girls. The one person that might fall into this is a childhood friend’s wife who he sometimes talks to. Other than that he’s pretty much a computer/game guy and hangs out with the guys. 

    Post # 11
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    5273 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    We both have good friends of the opposite sex, but none of these are are really super close friends. Our super close friends are of the same sex.

    Either way, we don’t mind/get upset about either one of us chatting/ spending time with our friends of the opposite sex.

    Post # 12
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    1110 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2009

    Ive never really counted them.. but we do have friends of the opposite sex.. although if we hang out with them.. its usually in a group setting and we are both there.

    Post # 13
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    442 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    FI has no female friends. I have one good male friend and that is FI’s best friend. Over the years I have tried to build friendships with males, but they always wanted something more.

    EDIT: Now I have associates who are males, but I don’t consider them my friends. Males at my jobs, frat brothers, etc; I consider these people associates. We hang out in groups, grab something to eat or a few drinks here and there, but I wouldn’t consider these people friends.  

    Post # 14
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    827 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    We both have a mix, although I probably have more guy friends than he does girl friends.  But FI has NEVER had a problem with my guy friends.  One of my very best friends is a guy who I have been friends with for almost 9 years, but FI has never tried to stop us from being friends. 

    Post # 15
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    2559 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I’ve always been closer with boys – just easier for me 🙂 So has my hubs, so most of our friends are boys and their girlfriends come and go (making it hard to get a head count for your poll – haha). We consider all of our friends mutual though… we just have always introduced everyone and hang out in big groups.

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