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like some others, im a regular poster, but heres my "sex board" pseudonym :)
I am not a particular fan of oral sex at all - giving or recieving. my FH loooves to give it but honestly i cant even minutely relax when hes doing it.
Is anyone in the same boat? I always feel like a weirdo when people talk about how great oral is and how everyone loves it. i honestly just cant get into it. its kind of embarrasing to have your stuff all right in their face like that...
thoughts?
Everyone is different - there's nothing wrong with you if you don't enjoy oral sex!
Have you talked to your FI about this though? If he's doing anything that makes you uncomfortable, even if that something would be totally normal for someone else, it's important to talk to him about it, because you should never be uncomfortable in intimate situations!
yeah he knows i hate it, and hes okay with it - every now and then he asks to see if i have changed my mind (i wont LOL) but i feel bad because i know he likes it so much. I think its the OCD in me that just thinks its totally unclean. weird i know and definately not rational, but either way, ugh.
have you tried just after showering/bathing (maybe together)? that might help with feeling 'cleaner' :)
I feel exactly the same way actually! I don't mind giving it but I refuse to allow him to reciprocate because it just feels so unclean! I know everyone raves about it but I just can't get my head around the idea and relax...
not too into getting it but love giving it. FI is better with his other utilties!
I love giving it and truth be told I love receiving it at least how it feels but...it also makes me extremely uncomfortable. I don't know why but it just does.
You aren't weird at all! The most important thing in any relationship is to feel safe, to feel able to be yourself. If it's something that makes you uncomfortable, that's fine. Lots of people have issues with different sexual activities, and it is important to be both sexually compatible with your partner, and able to negotiate your sexual wants and needs as a couple.
I love getting and giving it. You aren't alone tho....alot of my girlfriends don't enjoy getting it but love to give.
Love giving it, hate receiving it. In fact, I just told him years ago don't bother with me, because it really isn't effective hah.
It's not my thing. I don't like receiving it (I enjoy other things much much more!) and I really really hate giving it. Occassionally I'm a good wifey and I know he really appreciates it though. But I really dislike it. It's a special occassion kind of thing. Or if i've had a lot to drink. But yeah....blegh!
But wow, talk about an intimate topic, LOL.
Definetly not a big fan of receiving. It makes me feel really uncomfortable. Like giving it because my hubby likes it.
OMG! THANK YOU SO MUCH! Seriously I thought i was the ONLY person who didnt like to receive. whenever i tell my friends that they say im crazy and my husband just isnt doing it right...but I really dont think thats it...I REALLY dont like receiving. problem is he LOVES to give oral. *le sigh*
I said doesn't matter because it depends on my mood. Most of the time I love recieving and giving but sometimes I just don't feel like giving it.
I'm shocked by the amount of ladies who don't like to receive! This is totally new to me! lol
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I hate giving, both because I think it's icky but mostly because I have severe jaw problems so it really hurts.
I don't dislike receiving but it doesn't do it for me (but then again nothing really does) but I don't love it/need it. I don't receive that often as we just don't do it, it seems.
Oh i thought i was the only one who felt that way about receiving it..no matter how much waxing and washing i still feel weird about it..i dont mind doing it for him though.
What's up with me focusing on the sex boards tonight? :shrug:
Maybe this is my coping mechanism for not getting engaged yet; le sex talk.
My guy loves, loves, loves giving it and loves, loves, loves getting it (in that order, ha). I'm the same way. However, I only "love" giving it because he goes all crazy when I do. Gives me quite the confidence boost to think that I could make my bf do ANYTHING in exchange for some sexy oral action. Like....wash the dishes, hahaha. I need to get more creative demands, eh.
i love both giving and receiving. honestly, i don't know what it is, but fantasizing about giving it has always turned me on more than most things (like fantasizing about receiving it). sorry if TMI, heh.
I agree with what a few of you said earlier...Feels good but it's so awkward! I can't relax either and my mind is always on something else! Drives me crazy. I really try to enjoy it, but it shouldn't have to be something you have to TRY to enjoy. Ya know? I HATE giving it, but I will every so often. And, the other day I gave it in the shower and hubs was THRILLED. Apparently he has never had that before...perfect situation for me, it is clean, and I can wash up afterward! :) (sorry. maybe TMI?)
I wouldn't say I LOVE giving it, but I don't mind it. I def have no problem receiving it! LOL. FI loves loves loves giving it (and I'm yet to meet a man who doesn't love receiving it).
As long as there is blance in your bedroom life, I don't think it matters. Part of being a compatible couple is learning and exploring together - and respecting how each person feels about things.
I am surprised that so many ladies don't like to receive it, but everyone is different so I wouldn't worry about it!
I guess I have never considered it to be unclean because I am distracted by how much I enjoy receiving. FI enjoys it a lot as well and I should make more of an effort to give him more of it.
I really don't like giving or receiving. We've started to do it once in a while (before it was hardly ever which I was fine with) but eh, I don't really "enjoy" being on either side of it, but if the hubs wants to I'm game.
I used to really love receiving but since FI started having a beard, it is way too tickly! (hehehe, sorry if that's TMI!) Anyway, I can still get into it I'm super relaxed, because FI does love it, but he knows if I start in with the giggling, I'm not going to be able to enjoy it!
FI loves receiving (have yet to meet a man who doesn't) and I'm cool with giving. From what I've heard, I'm pretty damn good at it ;o)
I'm eh! I really enjoy giving, but not for a really long time! I get "bored" i guess?! I hear i'm good (is that a good thing?!) but after a while i'm like, ok, lets move on! And I do enjoy receiving, but sometimes i feel really conscious down there! Like what if i'm not up to par?! Plus, (sorry FI!!!!), but he isn't the BEST at it :O But i do enjoy the random fun times of it!
Call me a prude, but there's no way I can answer this without blushing! That being said, I did answer the poll 
I'm not the biggest fan of receiving either. If I'm freshly showered and waxed then I'm more OK with it. As far as giving, I really like giving but - and this totally sucks - my FI is bigger than previous BFs and I kind of feel like I've lost my BJ mojo with him. He says I'm crazy but I feel like I'm not good at it anymore so that makes me not want to do it.
I could totally do without either giving or receiving ... most of the time receiving makes me feel all awkward and giving it just isn't the time of my life ... even though he does enjoy it big time.
It's interesting how many people say that they feel awkward/self-conscious about receiving! I bet that not that many men feel that way! It seems like there must be something going on there about the messages our culture sends about women's bodies and sexuality. I don't mean to be critical of those who feel that way - you feel how you feel! I just think that it's interesting how squeamish we're taught to be about our own bodies, and to feel uncomfortable about a sex act that's focused on the woman's pleasure, and I doubt that men are socialized to have those same hang-ups.
@worcesterbride - interesting point.
for me however, i am not a fan of giving OR recieving - it might be my upbringing and having issues with what i consider clean. not that either one of us is "unclean" but its a mental thing. the only way i can relax in giving is in the shower, and i am NEVER really relaxed recieving.
i like both. i love recieving it more, but i HAVE to take a shower and make sure im completely clean first. and once i am, im all for it and FH is allll for it himself =)
I don't really like either, for the cleanliness reasons. It's ok right after a shower though. I think I almost prefer giving instead of receiving. Maybe hubby isn't so good at it (I wouldn't know since he's the only guy I've been with- even kissing!) or maybe it just doesnt do it for me, but it's only meh most of the time. Good for a bit of lubrication when I need it, but otherwise I could totally do without. He likes receiving, of course, so I'll do it on occasion. It's just awkward, and as someone else said, it just starts to get boring lol I feel like I keep doing the same thing over and over. I dont know if I'm "good" but he enjoys it well enough. I can hope I'm the best he's had, but I don't ask because it's something I don't really want to know or think about anyway!
I like both. I prefer giving though because he gets this look on his face like he couldn't love me anymore than he already does.
And ladies have fun with it! If he thinks you're into it he'll consider it the best bj he's ever had. :)
i am a big believer of both giving and receiving :)
Love receiving, but don't enjoy giving LOL. But I do anyway of course, because well, that just wouldn't be fair! haha
I'm a giver and a reciever, however, I do like giving more that I like recieving. I love giving, and recieving is great and all, but it's kind of a foreplay thing for me, it doesn't "get the job done" so to speak.
edit: this is quite an intimate topic! I'm wondering what's next, a "spit or swallow" thread?! Oh lord... lol.
@rainbow, HAHAHAHAHA.
Spit all the way. Or throw up. =]
I really wish I could enjoy giving (no doubt it'd helpf fulfill a few of my husband's randiest fantasies) but I just can't!!!
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