Post # 1
like some others, im a regular poster, but heres my “sex board” pseudonym 🙂
I am not a particular fan of oral sex at all – giving or recieving. my FH loooves to give it but honestly i cant even minutely relax when hes doing it.
Is anyone in the same boat? I always feel like a weirdo when people talk about how great oral is and how everyone loves it. i honestly just cant get into it. its kind of embarrasing to have your stuff all right in their face like that…
Post # 3
Everyone is different – there’s nothing wrong with you if you don’t enjoy oral sex!
Have you talked to your FI about this though? If he’s doing anything that makes you uncomfortable, even if that something would be totally normal for someone else, it’s important to talk to him about it, because you should never be uncomfortable in intimate situations!
Post # 4
yeah he knows i hate it, and hes okay with it – every now and then he asks to see if i have changed my mind (i wont LOL) but i feel bad because i know he likes it so much. I think its the OCD in me that just thinks its totally unclean. weird i know and definately not rational, but either way, ugh.
Post # 5
have you tried just after showering/bathing (maybe together)? that might help with feeling ‘cleaner’ 🙂
Post # 6
I feel exactly the same way actually! I don’t mind giving it but I refuse to allow him to reciprocate because it just feels so unclean! I know everyone raves about it but I just can’t get my head around the idea and relax…
Post # 7
not too into getting it but love giving it. FI is better with his other utilties!
Post # 8
I love giving it and truth be told I love receiving it at least how it feels but…it also makes me extremely uncomfortable. I don’t know why but it just does.
Post # 9
You aren’t weird at all! The most important thing in any relationship is to feel safe, to feel able to be yourself. If it’s something that makes you uncomfortable, that’s fine. Lots of people have issues with different sexual activities, and it is important to be both sexually compatible with your partner, and able to negotiate your sexual wants and needs as a couple.
Post # 10
interesting – all the votes are equal so far! lol
Post # 11
I love getting and giving it. You aren’t alone tho….alot of my girlfriends don’t enjoy getting it but love to give.
Post # 12
Love giving it, hate receiving it. In fact, I just told him years ago don’t bother with me, because it really isn’t effective hah.
Post # 13
It’s not my thing. I don’t like receiving it (I enjoy other things much much more!) and I really really hate giving it. Occassionally I’m a good wifey and I know he really appreciates it though. But I really dislike it. It’s a special occassion kind of thing. Or if i’ve had a lot to drink. But yeah….blegh!
But wow, talk about an intimate topic, LOL.
Post # 14
Definetly not a big fan of receiving. It makes me feel really uncomfortable. Like giving it because my hubby likes it.
Post # 15
OMG! THANK YOU SO MUCH! Seriously I thought i was the ONLY person who didnt like to receive. whenever i tell my friends that they say im crazy and my husband just isnt doing it right…but I really dont think thats it…I REALLY dont like receiving. problem is he LOVES to give oral. *le sigh*
Post # 16
I said doesn’t matter because it depends on my mood. Most of the time I love recieving and giving but sometimes I just don’t feel like giving it.