Post # 1
I am kinda freaking out because I have been reading posts about how much time ahead you should order a dress. I also sent off for some quotes on dresses I found online, and have been reading all of their delivery time guidelines, and well, I am realizing that I don’t have as much time as I thought to figure this dress thing out and order!!
I really won’t have the money to order until early September though. Or really, to even put down a deposit somewhere.
Knowing all this, I am thinking I should at least make sure I am ready to order the day I am able so I am going to get busy on the shopping part (the trying on; I do plenty of “shopping” online!) and get my decision down and solid.
My issue is the sizing. I am currently a bridal 18 (street 14/16) in most designers, according to their size charts and what I’ve tried on already. I KNOW I will lose another dress size before the wedding. I really want to (makes my face look better! and I’ve been steadily losing since last April ( around 20 pounds so far) plus I always drop weight when I am back in school from all the walking around campus. It would be NO more than one dress size though, because that puts me at a street size 12/14 and that’s where I’m happiest and look my best.
Should I just plan on ordering a size down then? or is this foolish? I’ve also noticed that the “plus size surcharge” tends to happen with size 18 and up so I am thinking of that as well, if I get a 16 I can save money. As it is I will probably have to order extra length since I’m 5’8″ barefooted, and that will cost me extra, so I want to save however I can.
Most of the dresses I’m looking at have zip backs.. and I plan on wearing good undergarments (corset or similar) which affects the decision also. Ugh. I also want to avoid too much expense on alterations and make sure I have time for them if I need them.
Post # 3
I was going to order a size down and then I chickened out. Wedding dresses are very expensive and its a big risk to take. Plus, wedding shops say that they hear brides say they are going to lose weight before the wedding all the time. I went ahead and ordered the dress in my current size. Remember that the dress can always be altered down but can not always be altered up. I would stay on the safe side and just get it altered if you lose weight.
Post # 4
I agree that it is better to go bigger. I bought a sample dress, which was at least 1 size too big (probably 2) and the seamstress just took it in like magic.
If money is an issue, and you have this much time, you might want to look into ways to get the dress of your dreams for less. There ARE ways, especially if you are super organized, as you do sound.
Good luck and congrats!
Post # 5
Ok, firstly, I would order the size you are. Don’t put that pressure on yourself.
Secondly, my zip back dress (Blue by Enzoani) has a similar size range to a corset back. It fit perfectly when I ordered, I dropped a dress size (thank you, Jillian Michaels!) and it still fits perfectly, and I could go down 1 more dress size without worrying. It has an inner corset, and you just fasten that tighter, and the dress goes with it. I was pleasantly surprised.
Thirdly, be careful about wearing corsets underneath. Most dresses are quite heavily boned, and so you may end up with boning-on-boning, which could be very uncomfortable for you (and may be counter-productive – you might end up with 6 layers of fabric on, which will add bulk). If you are determined to wear a corset, then wear it when you’re measured, as it can alter you measurements in unexpected ways (I have a number of victorian-style steel boned corsets, and they do very odd things to my stats! Waist down, hips bigger, boobs in a a different place….)
Post # 6
I ordered the dress to fit me if I didn’t lose another pound. I lost more than 20 before my fitting & my seamstress was able to take it in with almost no problem. I had a little bunching at the neckline because it was SO big. She had to take off 3 sizes for me.
I say get the one that will fit you now. You never know what could happen. You could get an injury that could hamper your ability to work out. I personally gained about 8lbs over the holidays last year – cause I let myself indulge a bit, but that definitely put a stall in things..
Get it in the right size, and have it taken in.. its’ not worth the stress!
Post # 7
I ordered a size down, but had the flexibility of the corset back. I worked out like a crazy person after ordering, but even so I was a bit anxious until the dress arrived (only a month before the wedding) and I was sure it would fit. As it was, I could probably have ordered another size down, but instead just had to lace up a bit tighter.
It would be very nice to save the plus-size surcharge if you can. It sounds like you have already done so well with your weight loss that I think you could easily go down a dress size by September, when you said you wanted to order.
Post # 8
First off, congrats on your weight loss so far, it sounds like you’re working really hard and it’s paying off! That’s awesome! I would definitely order in the size you are now. It’s easier to take a dress in than to let it out. If you’re not ordering until September though, I would go try on dresses again closer to your order date and see what size you are then.
Post # 9
I’d suggest ordering the dress in the size you are when you buy it. If you lose weight that is fabulous, you can have it taken in. If not, then you’re still good to go.
Also, I’m almost 5’11” and will be wearing 3″ heels. I ordered my dress in regular length and it’s perfect. Bridal dresses (for the most part) are cut a bit longer, so don’t worry about the length.
Post # 10
It’s really a tough call. I think a lot of women think/hope they will lose weight and order a size down, but don’t actually lose the weight. If you are really honest with yourself about whether you will lose the weight, and know you will, then I would say you probably could order down. Although you might want to see if the dress you order has any room to be taken out.
I ordered a dress that was just a tiny bit tight, but work stress, no time to run, and spending a lot of time at my in-law who only have junk food in their house led to me freaking out and begging David’s bridal to exchange for a size up, which they did.
Post # 11
You don’t have to order the dress until September. So I would order it in what ever size you are then. If something happens and you order a size too small you will be out of luck and have to find a new dress.
Post # 12
DO NOT order it a size smaller. They can take it in for a lot cheaper than they can let it out.
Post # 13
I ordered mine as is and I know it will have to be altered as it is too big. It is a corset back and when laced up, both sides are lined up when they should form a v. But since I bought it off the rack, the store was able to give me a discount. I am also in the process of losing weight. 7 pounds so far and I’ve got 9 months till the wedding. I know that many brides say they will lose weight and don’t but that doesn’t affect me at all. I know what I want, I’ve done it before and I am disciplined enough to accomplish my goal. My mom also found a dress already and bought it off the rack even though it was a size too small. She is using this as incentive to lose the weight. We are helping each other and are excited to become healthier. If you know you can do it, go for it! But if you have any doubts, order the size that fits now, and like the other bees said, you can always have it taken in.
Post # 14
The safer bet would def be to order the dress at whatever your current size is when it’s time to order it! The awesome thing is, if you have to get the dress altered to make it smaller they can alter it to completely fit to your body- for example, take it in here but not so much here… depending on your dress this could make a big difference in how the dress looks. For example, I was a bridesmaid this last oct.. at the time I went in to order the dress I could fit into the smaller size but the dress was so fitting around the stomach that it really showed off my belly which I didn’t like (the fabric was chartruse (sp?) so every little curve was really highlighted! So the shop lady suggested ordering one size bigger and having it taken in on the bust so it flowed better around my belly and she was completely right and it looked awesome the day of the wedding 🙂
I don’t know what the look of the dress is that you’re getting but I’m sure alterations will work the same way whatever dress you do get. And like some people pointed out… I hear it is true that it is more expensive and harder to alter a dress up rather than down. I think ordering the size you are currently are is the safest money wise and is also the better decision for looking good in your dress 🙂 rather than ordering a dress a size smaller and risking it being too small here but good there… I think order the dress the size you are and get it taken in where ever you need it later 🙂
Post # 15
I ordered mine in my current size at the time. The bridal shop told me it’s easy to lose weight in your waist and hips, but not always your chest (rib cage). I tried on the size I wanted to order and there was like a 2 inch gap to closing.
My dress would be easy to take in – but not so easy to take out.
I knew I’d be losing the weight, but was too scared it wouldn’t zip right with the smaller size.
4 months later – I know the smaller size would have been fine. I’m going to go see my dress tomorrow – so, I don’t know how the bigger size will fit for sure. (I’ll try to update this post!)
I think if I had to do it again, I’d order the smaller size. It all depends on your body type and how much you plan to lose, etc. It sounds like you know what you need to do to lose the weight and have done it before. Because of this – I say – go for it! (with the smaller size!)
I’d also wait until the very last minute to order the dress (measurement-wise).