Post # 1
Hi bees – I’m having some difficulty with the order of the ceremony. It’s a non-religious ceremony with a celebrant, and I don’t want it to go longer than 20 minutes. At the moment it’s like this:
Introduction and thoughts on marriage
Musical intermission as we sign papers
So – should I switch the ring exchange around to after the signing of papers? (Not sure if this is ok in Australia?) Also, does anyone have any non-vomitworthy wording for the ring exchange?
Post # 4
@aussiebride26: I’m Australian and I’m pretty sure I’ve never seen the ring exchange after the signing of the papers. The ring exchange sort of goes with the vows because immediately after the actual vows, bride and groom each say something as they put the rings on each other; and what is said is very similar sort of things to what is said in the vows.
I’m sure the celebrant will have some suggested things to say as you put the rings on each other.
p.s. You can do the kiss last if you want, but usually the first kiss is before the signing of the papers. i.e. do the vows, exchange the rings, celebrant says something like “I now pronounce you husband and wife. You may kiss the bride”. Then you’re actually married (I think!) and you go off to sign the papers to formalise what you’ve just done.
Post # 5
@paula1248: Thanks, this is really helpful – I went to a wedding only a few months ago and didn’t notice the order! I’ll ask the celebrant, but I rewrote the entire ceremony he gave us because I didn’t like it, so I’m not too sure if he’ll have anything more our style.