- 3 years ago
trying to work out order of ceremony for DD’s wedding and incorporate a mix of cultural traditions from both families that are polar opposite. It is complicated by the fact grooms mother does not speak english and my spanish is, at best, basic. I have tried to set up several meetings so we can try and hash out something that will work and have both sides at least not offended but so far no luck. FSIL is trying but honestly can’t tell me what the importance of some things are other than ‘his mom wants them’.
We are having the ceremony at a retired curch run by the historical society, so it is a ‘nutral space’ not showing favortisim to either side. The Minister is hired because our Pastor was not comfortable doing some of the things groom family wants.
The service will be in english but the programs will be in both english and spanish.
The traditions being done have been narrowed down to: unity candle, arras(coins?) and the wedding lasso. I understand the meaning for the coins but am at a loss for the point of the rope. That said there will be a couple from our side of the family and one from his doing it. His mother is not thrilled with this as she wanted her elder daughter to do it for both, but as has been said…compromise isn’t just for one side it’s for both.
So the main question is how do we blend these three things together? don’t want things just tacked on at the end in some awkward bit…hope to blend them together. Do you play music during coins/lasso? I know you do for the unity candle…