Order of the Toasts or Speeches?

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Order of the Toasts or Speeches?

posted 2 years ago in Reception

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amariem25 October 2009

So in what order do people give toasts? I have no idea who goes first and who is actually supposed to do a speech? I know the Best Man has one planned and my Dad has one planned.

MOH said she isn't doing one.

Are FI and I supposed to give one? What about the groom's father?

Who starts the speeches? My Dad? The Best Man? Or someone else?

Are the toasts given after dinner but before cake?

2 years ago

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amariem25 October 2009

still looking for thoughts.

2 years ago

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million October 24, 2009 Cape Town

You can really do whatever you want. It's traditional for the Father of the Bride, the Best Man and the Groom to give a speech, but it's becoming increasingly common for women to get in on the action.

I'm going to do a speech, as will my MOH. I don't have a father so my uncle will give the traditional FOB speech (I would have asked my mom to do it, but she's a bumbling ball of emotion and would never be able to get through it).

Google it and you'll find lots of sites with tons of information.

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Brianalaura August 14, 2010 Ontario, Canada

At most weddings I've gone to, the best man gives a speech first, then the father, then the couple. But I just went to a wedding where only the best man and the couple gave a speech, and I went to another where the speeches went: best man and groomsmen, maid of honour and bridesmaid, sister of the groom, brother of the groom, father of the groom, parents of the bride, and then the couple! Speeches galore!

For ours I think we will just be having the best man and maid of honour, and then ourselves. My parents and his mom don't want to do one, and my fiance's dad is often inappropriate, so no parental speeches.

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daniellemybelle June 19, 2010 Baltimore, MD

We are having it like this: Best Man, Maid of Honor, Bridesmaid if she wants, Groom & I (we'll both speak and then toast our guests together). A lot of people space the toasts out throughout the dinner courses (best man at salad, maid of honor at main course, etc.) but we're having them all in a row after the cake is cut.

2 years ago