Post # 1
My fiances brother got engaged 6 months before us and will get married about 3 months before us as well. My future sil is great and we have no issues, she was excited with us getting engaged and always says she is excited to finally get a sister.
I had picked a convertible bm dress because my Aunt makes them and I have one bm on a tight budget and one who is trying to get pregnant and the dress would fit both well. The dress would be a pale pink or champagne and knee length. I told my future mil and sil and they thought it sounded great! Fast forward 2 months and now my sil has decided to go with floor length convertible dresses in slate gray.
I truly believe she probably forgot that I had chosen almost the same dress, and don’t think she in any way did it to hurt my feelings, and to be honest I don’t want to cause drama over a dress, so I just told her that her dresses looked great and congrats on picking them, and just decided I would find another dress for my wedding. However now my bms are all upset because they both really liked the dress.
Would it be awful of me to get the same style of dresses but short and in another color? I would talk to her about it, but I don’t even want to bring up the idea if it is going to cause problems. What do you think?
Btw her wedding would be first and they will be wearing them all different ways, my plan would be for the girls to wear them oneway.
Post # 3
@SaharaRose: I see no issue with doings this, a lot of people do convertible dresses it doesn’t mean other people in the family can’t do the same…
Post # 4
@SaharaRose: people probably wouldn’t even realize they’re the same dress. I say keep the dresses!
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club
I don’t think it’d be a big deal. Most people won’t even realize that they are the same dresses. 🙂
Post # 6
I don’t get what the problem is. You chose the dress to be worn short and one way. She chose the dress to be worn differently and long. If she did forget, and if she gets upset, you can just remind her that you already showed it to her. If you don’t have any problems with her, why would you think this would cause problems?
Post # 7
I bet no one but you and her recognize them as the same dress!
Post # 8
they will be different colours and differnt cuts … if she havin them all tied different too and you all one way ppl might not even notice maybe show her the way u are tieing them and ask that none of her girls do it that way or dont even ask just show her them on ur girls in tur style of tieing and hopefully she will avoid that way
Post # 9
@SaharaRose: These posts always scare me because I’m afraid at some point in the past one of my friends may have mentioned she wanted some detail at her wedding and I’ll haphazardly pick the same and she’ll hate me forever and throw pig blood on me at my wedding. That’s overly dramatic 🙂 But seriously, I can’t imagine it being a problem to pick the same dress. I imagine she remembered the dresses from when you showed her and chose because of that. They’re a different color and a different length, they have very little in common anyway.
Post # 10
I think because your wedding is after your SIL’s then there should be no problem at all, unless she’s your typical bridezilla. Why would she have a problem with you having similar dresses 3 months after her wedding? Plus, you’re willing to make your dresses as different from hers as possible, by choosing different colors and a shorter length.
You should just inform her (very nicely), not ask her for permission, about your BM dresses.
Post # 11
A. hers are floor length and yours are knee length
B. They are different colors.
I think that there should be enough differenc that there shouldn’t really be an issue. Then again, unless two dresses are side by side and identical, I probably wouldn’t catch on. Honestly, I think convertable dresses are a great idea as they are flexable and have a future wearablity about them.
Post # 12
Lol, as long as it isn’t a wedding dress, I say it should be fine. When I opened this post I expected you to say your SIL bought the same wedding gown. That would be awkward!