Ordering invitations in an hour- need help!!

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
42082 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

FutureMrsT1221:  I think it’s fine. The etiquette experts will say that the invitation goes out in the names of the hosts not necessarily who is paying, but I think it is very courteous and generous to include both sets of parents. It bodes well for your realtionship with your FIL’s.

Post # 3
1377 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Usually when I see ‘together with their parents’, it doesn’t list the parents names. BUT I think you are perfectly fine in doing so. Will their names be a smaller size than the rest? I think it depends more on how the invites are structured – if their names can be a smaller font, they won’t stand out as much, and it won’t look ‘long winded’, as opposed to having their names the same font size or so (if that makes sense). 

Post # 4
2264 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Just a thought: Fincancial contributions don’t necessitate naming on an invitation.

If you want to break it up a little, you could say:


Mr. and Mrs. FutureMrsT1121

request the pleasure of your company (or honour of your presence if in religious institution)

at the marriage of their daughter

Bride Firstname Middlename


Groom Firstname Middlename

son of Mr. and Mrs. Groom’s Parents

yada yada yada.


This way, everyone’s names are still on the invite! 

Post # 5
405 posts
Helper bee

Together with their families<br />Bride’s Full Name<br />and<br />Groom’s Full Name<br />request the pleasure of your company<br />as they are united in marriage<br />Day, date<br />time<br />Venue<br />Address<br />City, State






Mr. and Mrs. Bride Father<br />Mr. and Mrs. Groom’s Father<br />request the pleasure of  your company<br />at the marriage of<br />Bride’s First&Middle<br />and <br />Groom’s First&Middle<br />Day, date<br />time<br />Venue<br />Address<br />City, State

Post # 6
2751 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

The different etiquette wordings do actually depend on who is paying. You should probably just say together with their parents or families. The place that I ordered my invitations from had a binder with different choices for wording completely depending on whose paying. You don’t have to follow them though.

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