Post # 1
I don’t really know how tor espond to this…
I invited some friends for a bbq next saturday including this girl and her boyfriend. Today she sent me an email asking what she should bring. I said she could bring dessert maybe?
She answered back saying that she would bring it and adds: I wanted to remind you that Fiance and I just eat organic food!
What does that mean? That i am supposed to get everything organics then? I guess I could buy some organic meat at Costco but what about salad, dressings, etc?
Should I write to her and ask what she meant?
Post # 3
I think in a situation like this they should be responsible for providing their own organic food. Its not fair that you would have to buy all organic stuff just for them as its their personal dietary choice.
Post # 4
If it’s a bunch of people and the girl and her boyfriend are just two people in a crowd, then they are definitely responsible for bringing their own food. It would be a nice gesture for you to supply something organic, but you absolutely don’t have to. It’s their responsibility to stick to their own diet.
Post # 5
If they only eat organic, they’re gonna have to be responsible for looking after their own food In My Humble Opinion.
It’s not really something they should place on you as a responsibility. …I eat a lot of organic food by choice, but for little get togethers and going outs, I make exceptions!
Post # 6
@Future Mrs. W: This.
We have friends that only eat organic meat. However, when they attend BBQs, they usually just let go of this dietary restriction (it’s just one day/meal) or they will bring their own sizeable meat dish to share.
While it would be nice to have your hosts serve all organic food, it’s not like a food allergy which would cause you to go into shock and die. As such, perhaps she should bring something else in addition to/instead of dessert. I would probably provide one or two other organic dishes to be nice, if it is convenient for you, but I wouldn’t go out of my way or budget to do so.
Post # 7
tell her to forget the dessert and bring her own organic meat. if you want to be nice, you can provide something organic but it’s not required.
Post # 8
Oh, I forgot to add that the bbq is a thank you for the people that helped us move. So that is why I think I have an “obligation” with them…
If it were a normal bbq I would tell them to bring their own organic food…
Post # 9
If they want to eat only organic, they need to provide that themselves. You shouldn’t have to be responsible for catering to their personal choice.
It isn’t like they’re talking about a food allergy that could kill them or make them really ill.
Post # 10
I am dealing with this with myself right now. I have to eat gluten free, and soy free! (So, I can hardly eat any conventional foods.) I think it was a tiny bit rude of her to say that, but as someone with dietary restrictions, I know how it is difficult to navigate. Personally, I just bring my own food and let the host know so that they are not offended. I have to eat organic as well.
Post # 11
OH! So it is a thank you. I would consider getting organic meat then!
Post # 12
That’s some stanky BS, even if you are hosting a thank you meal. I eat similarly to your friend (I eat mostly organic, especially meat). But this isn’t an allergy, and like others with dietary restrictions, I bring a dish I know I’ll eat, then eat around what I can. I’ll often make exceptions for meals hosted by others, although I know some people aren’t comfortable with that- in that case, they should make sure they have come prepared.
If you can afford to provide an organic dish, great. If not, or if you’ve already set the menu and done most of the shopping, I wouldn’t worry too much about it. If you’re used to getting your salad dressing from a bottle, it’s not fair for her to expect that you either buy a new one, or make one from scratch for all organic ingredients.
There are reasonable accomodations and there are crazy ones. Would she say this if she were RSVPing to an event? Assuming you already have non-perishables, does she expect you to go out and buy organic ketchup, onions, etc? I don’t think I know anybody who outright refuses to eat ANY food that’s not organic, although I know quite a few that won’t eat any non-organic meat.
Post # 13
Well, assuming you do want to accomodate them since it is a thank you BBQ, there are some relatively inexpensive options that can be all organic. Meat is going to be pricier of course, but often Whole Foods has sales on various protein. In addition, I think Costco sells organic chicken that’s not waaaaay expensive. It’s up to you if you want to offer only organic meat to everyone or set aside the “special meat” for this couple only. Do figure it out ahead of time though because it’s like with special vegetarian dishes, the non-vegetarians always seem to get to those before the vegetarians do!
In addition, organic pasta is usually only about $0.50-$1/box than the regular variety at Trader Joe’s or even Whole Foods. You can do a quick pasta salad.
I’m pretty sure the organic chips at TJ’s or WF are about the same difference in cost.
I would avoid “regular” grocery stores for organics since they usually have a very high markup on organic products.
Post # 14
I am pescetarian (no meat except for fish) and if I were going to a casual gathering like a BBQ, I wouldn’t mention it to the host. I’d just bring a dish that I know I could eat.
However, as the host it would be a nice gesture to provide something for them. As a guest I’d appreciate it but certainly not expect it!