Post # 1
First of all, I know it’s unusual to have, well, a groom-to-be posting here, but since I couldn’t find an adequate answer to my question, I pose it all to you, here.
Ultimately, this is a moot point, since it comes down to the bride and myself and what we want, but I’m still interested in your opinions and will take it to heart.
Basically, I’ve been composing for upwards of 12 years now, and have written music for various styles and settings, including drafting a four act musical. I’m used to writing music for people that have inspired me or to celebrate parts of their lives.
I have always dreamed of writing my own wedding music, particularly as a monument to my (soon-to-be) wife’s beauty and brilliance. I know how much would need to be created for the entire ceremony (prelude-pre-processional-processional-bridal processional-unity song-recessional), and while a daunting task is something I’m well-equipped for.
My question to you is, how would it be received. I mean, should I write everything?! Would you feel alienated without the "traditional" Wedding March. Should I play it safe and only write the surrounding pieces?
I am working on everything now, and since I need to have it completed soon to hand to the organist (our only instrument), I’m sure it will resolve itself.
Thanks for reading this long post, your input and comments, and good luck to you all!
Post # 3
Check out these past threads on the subject:
What are you walking down the aisle to?
What song are you walking down the isle to?
Unique Cermony Music
Based on these responses, I think many people here don’t do the traditional Wedding March. If you’re a composer, I think it’s actually a shame to play it safe — what a way to showcase your talent at one of the most important events of your lives together.
Post # 4
I think writing your own music will amaze your guests and make your bride very happy! I really think it will be more meaningful to everyone when they hear it during the ceremony. How sentimental and personal!
We are getting married next month and not using the traditional march either. A friend of ours is going to sing Man in Me (Dylan) while the bridesmaids/groomsmen walk the aisle and Walk the Line (Cash) while I walk the aisle (waaaay slowed down) and play the ukulele. It’s going to be way more meaningful and personal for us!
Good luck with your planning!
Post # 5
I agree with Crickets post.
I too think it would create a great mood and make the ceremony that much more intimate and personal. A lot of people just go with the wedding march because they think they have to, and for the sake of "tradition" but I say what good is tradition if it doesn’t mean anything to you?
One of my good friends is a musician and I’ve asked him to write some acoustic music for us. It’s much more touching than a CD of the wedding march! I say do your thing Mr. Composer!!
Post # 6
Rebecca said it perfectly, your wedding is the perfect time to showcase your talent that many of us wish we had.
I personally cannot stand the traditional Wedding March, there’s nothing pretty-sounding about it and it evokes no emotion. I walked down to Sade’s "By Your Side" because it meant something to us.
Make it personal and beautiful, and maybe you can communicate to your guests that you composed ti yourself through a program so that it’ll mean a little more to them, too. Best of luck.
Post # 7
I think it would be most meaningful if you were to compose a song just for your soon-to-be wife. 🙂 It is so climatic and it would make her feel super special and cooey.
Post # 8
One of my closests friend’s FI composed the entire ceremony and finally, he wrote and sang a song to his bride as she walked down the aisle (all a surprise for my friend). There was not a dry eye in the room. It was the most memorable wedding that I’ve ever attended and I’ve been to many many weddings.
Post # 9
Thanks for the wonderful comments and feedback! I’ll be sure to do what I can. 🙂