Post # 1
My FSIL wants to have her baby baptized the weekend of my wedding since family members will all be in town. She called to ask and I’m totally ok with it since I’m in the camp of “You only get one day.” I had planned on hosting a breakfast the following morning after my wedding since many of my guests are from out of town but now she is saying that I need to cancel it since I should be at the baptism. She did suggest that we have a combined party later on that would include my out of town guests. I’m not loving that idea since many of the people I was including for the breakfast will not be attending the baptism. Would that be weird for them? Plus, I’m guessing that people would want to be back on the road by a certain time and a late afternoon gathering would be too late.
Do I skip the baptism and go about my original plans, go to the baptism and throw a combined party, or disregard a day after breakfast/brunch altogether?
Post # 3
It depends on what you want to do and if its important to you to be at the baptism. Since you planned the wedding first, you shouldnt really have to cancel or reaarange your plans if you dont want to. If you want to have the brunch I say go ahead and do it, and leave it up to guests which one they want to attend.
Post # 4
what time is the baptism? i would still host the breakfast – even if you aren’t there, people will understand.
Post # 5
@kitzy: Baptism is at 11. I was thinking I could host something early.
Post # 6
Have you already told people about the brunch? I think it would be fun to actually spend more time with your close friends and out of town guests the next day. But it is also important to be at the baptism of a family member. I understand why you’re torn. It’s true, you get one day… but people know that typically the Friday before and Sunday after are usually taken as well. When are you going on your honeymoon? I’m surprised you’ll even be in town for the baptism. Hope you figure it out 🙂
Post # 7
If I were one of your OOT guests and had no relation to your FSIL, I would not want to attend a party that celebrates her kids baptism, even if it were combined with something honoring you.
If it were me, I wouldn’t change my plans for the breakfast. I also agree that a lot of OOT guests would probably prefer to be on the road at a certain time so asking them to stick around for an afternoon get together would probably not go over well.
Post # 8
Could you have a later breakfast (9-11, but you’d leave a little early)? I agree with CaitMarae…I would feel super weird sticking around for a baptism party for a non-relative.
Post # 9
@kperry3: I haven’t booked a honeymoon yet but my plan is not matter what, I don’t want to leave the day after my wedding. I have a few friends flying in and I want to be able to spend a non stressful time with them since they are paying to come out to my home.
The Baptism will be around 10 which makes it too early to host a breakfast before. I’m thinking I should politely pass but I’m hoping this doesn’t offend my family members.