Other ideas for a non-dancing wedding…

posted 3 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
Member
4893 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Pirouette7:  Honestly, I probably wouldn’t be down for any sort of games or activities at a wedding. The extent of activities I see at weddings are when there is cornhole set up on lawns for outdoor weddings like during cocktail hour. I totally understand not being into dancing, but I just don’t think guests would really utilize or particiate in any of those things on your list. You know your guests best, so take that with a grain of salt it you will. Kind of goes along with the photo booth stuff – when people aren’t drinking and having a good time it’s basically just a portrait booth – when they’re partying is when you’re getting the really funny pictures.

Post # 3
Member
576 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

We are having lawn games for any guests that don’t feel like dancing it just want to step outside for a bit.

Some live music might make things interesting for your guests (not dance music).

Post # 4
Member
7410 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Pirouette7: I agree with  starfish0116: . I go to a wedding to socialise not to play games/do activities. To me those sort of activities are for childrens birthday parties and fetes/fairs. 

Post # 5
Member
1043 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

im not going to lie, i wouldnt stick around long after dinner if we were meant to play organized games. Just because you and your husband arent big partiers doesnt mean your guests wont appreciate a good dance/music.

i dont expect half of my guests to be on the dance floor, but with the fun music, and open bar i know they will still enjoy themselves socializing. If it were dead quiet (or worse – elevator music) and everyone was sober, it just wouldnt be as condusive to openly socializing and having fun.

Post # 6
Member
1244 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

At the very least, I would make all activities have some kind of commonality to them. Right now I’m picturing it being very random and unorganized. I’d pick two things at most. You don’t need to fill time with random activities; if you have food/music then guests can still relax and socialize without the pressure of having to do some game or paint.

Post # 7
Member
46 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Hmm, I’m going to disagree slightly with previous posters. I am also thinking of providing activities at my wedding. I think others may be thinking of organized activities–“now we’re going to play board games!” like you might have at a children’s party, and I don’t think that’s quite how you and I are thinking about it!

I plan on having some board games and lawn games available during the reception. I’m thinking about this for a few reasons: 1) my fiance hates dancing and our outdoor reception venue doesn’t really make sense as a dancing space, 2) this will be the first times our families meet each other, and I want to provide something to spark conversation since they don’t really have a whole lot in common, and 3) fiance and I often play board games together, and it’s something that I did with my family growing up so it doesn’t seem out of place to have games as an option. We’ll still have lots of great drinks, food and music–the games will just be there as an option around other socializing going on. I totally understand it’s not everyone’s cup of tea, but I know it will work for my party!

As far as your ideas–photobooths are always fun!

The mural idea is cool especially if you frame it as an alternative guest book. Maybe you could have people write down newlywed advice on the mural (I’ve also seen lots of other creative ways to do this, like coasters left on the tables). This could be combined with wedding mad libs so you have a set of table activities/conversation starters.

 

I like the idea of some kind of make-your-own food or drink station–like I’m thinking of doing a smores bar since we’ll be out in the woods. Cupcakes are great, too, as would be mimosas (different juices, fruits, sparkling wine options…). 

As a previous poster said, I think the trick will be making sure there’s some cohesion and not too much going on. For example, maybe you’d want to do just advice coasters and mad libs, and skip the artist, mural, photo competition, etc. I’d keep the photobooth no matter what though!

Post # 8
Member
232 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I went to a wedding where there ended up being really little to no dancing – it was held in a Children’s Musuem and the guests really got into the museum. I second the ‘have live music to liven things up’ part though. She had a live jazz band playing in the museum, which gave everything a festive atmosphere. As someone who really likes to dance, I didn’t end up dancing at that wedding. So if you have a venue like a musuem, then you don’t have to worry about entertaining your guests with games! Just a thought . . . I will add they had vetted that adults liked the museum as well as children. The museum often had an ‘adult swim’ night event for adults to come play in the museum that was very popular, so it’s good to keep in mind something like that. Maybe have something at an aquarium? zoo? something like that?

Post # 9
Member
3955 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Pirouette7:   I went to a wedding which had a bunch of games and stuff all set up and no one went near them.  Everyone sat on chairs and visited with each other.

We’re having a photobooth, and I hope it goes over well because duplicates will go in our guest book!  We’re not having dancing – it’s a brunch reception.

Leave a comment


Sent weekly. You may unsubscribe at any time.

Find Amazing Vendors