@DaLadyA: Thank you. The days leading up to it were so incredibly stressful in trying to plan everything in just a matter of about 3 weeks. But once we hit about noon the day of, both my Darling Husband and I split ways, had a little breakdown when we connected with our emotions and realized we had been ignoring everything we felt. We both had a little cry and then were ready to go. As soon as my mother was there with me, I felt 10 times better. Everyone chippped in to make sure everything got done in time and when I stepped out of the car and started waking down the aisle, my family did a doubletake because they almost didn’t recognize the change in me when I settled down and just let myself be present in the moment and have a great time. My Darling Husband started crying as soon as he saw me and I will always remember that moment for the rest of our lives. It never made me feel more beautiful. Darling Husband is already very playful but I wanted to join him in that and just let both of us have fun and let go of any preconveived ideas of what our wedding needed to be. It was very freeing.
@couawilou: The glowing is something that was missing in the wedding pictures I have of my first wedding. This is my second, DH’s first wedding. I’ve had to go a long time and learn a lot about myself to get to where I am with Darling Husband and my relationship. And that “glow” definitely comes from him–from the little things that are about accepting each other’s faults or quirks when it drives us crazy. It’s about us being able to read one another and just feel attuned to whatever it is that needs to happen. There’s something special and magical that you find in that.
@sweetcrackers: Thank you so much. It’s so interesting that you say the word “joyous” because that was one of the things that drew me to him in the first place. We met working at a methadone clinic so there isn’t always a lot of joy there–we work every day with people who feel like they don’t have that and it’s part of our job t help them navigate the system to help them find it. I’m a big fan of inspirational jewelry and before the wedding I always used to wear a ring that has the word Joy written on it. It’s meant to remind me of how important it is to have that in my life, but I never fully felt that until I met Darling Husband. I was so serious, studios, and analytical, I never let myself off to have fun. And that balance between us and his ability to share and bring some of that joy to my life is one of the things I love most about us.
@bells219: Bells, bring on the tears because your own comment made me tear up. We had a long, tough road to get to where we were. And finally we decided that our health was more important than making sure we had saved up enough to be able to afford x, y, z which every bridal magazine deems necessary. When it came down to talking about our priorities, my Darling Husband wanted me to be able to splurge and find a dress that would make me feel beautiful (and by splurge I mean under $500. And we both decided that one of the most important places to put our money was on an officiant whose background felt similar to ours and who we felt could respect and help us create a ceremony that would tell our story as a couple, our spiritual beliefs–both established religions and other, and who could be there to support us in taking that next step together. We were thrilled with our officiant and more than happy to splurge on this and cut back in other areas. We had family friends helping paint the house, sitting down and working on invitations until all hours of the night, paying for our flowers so I didn’t end up DIY while juggling a million other things, creating favors, learning music and offering to sing for our ceremony, and jumping in to decorate, sew sleeves on my dress, donate hundreds of dollars worth of food, and aide in any way they could. Our families, our friends–all that they did to support us and help us do this in such a short time just brings tears to my eyes. It’s so incredible to feel a part of that. Those are the things that I will remember, and I think the focus of our wedding was able to be about community and helping and sharing and love and what all that means. It was the most beautiful and touching thing I have ever experienced. I feel so incredibly blessed that they were all there to help us create and then to share in these moments together. To me, that is exactly what family is about.
@KitKatNYC: DH’s family is incredibly important to him (one of the things that made me fall in love with him) and they have really welcomed me into their family a long time ago. So it feels so special to be able to revisit our wedding every Sunday night for family dinner, or on the numerous other times where we go over to their house. It creates memories that you can’t find anywhere else.
@Eva Peron: I love the intimate apect of our wedding because it made things that much more special and inclusive. Almost everyone who was there was very special in our lives for very important and different reasons and to include all of them together with us was so inpiring.
@pengoala: Thank you for taking the time to comment.
@melisslp: Thank you. The gown was one of our big splurges, but I was able to get a sample at 50% off. My veil, believe it or not, came from Michael’s. I had actually ordered one from ebay and hated it–it felt too big and gaudy. But this one was perfect and so cheap–maybe $15 before the 40% off coupon.