(Closed) Our best man is getting married 2 weeks after us!!!!

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
5109 posts
Bee Keeper

@Nel13:  I don’t think it’s that serious… Two weeks is enough time to separate the events IMO. It will be stressful on them to have both weddings to plan/attend/do stuff for. I dk, I’m sorry that it is bothering you!

Post # 4
424 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Muckenthaler Cultural Center

I think it’s okay! Out friend got married 5 days after us and it was totally fine, it was actually really fun 🙂

Post # 5
3588 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2000

@Nel13:  Of  course you can get married before them. Lots of people get married at the same time, it’s just that all of you may not be able to attend all festivities, that is, if you all have showers and engagement parites and bachelor parties, etc.

It will be fine. Really neither you nor he own that month as The Marriage Month.

If you think his bride will be unhappy with your date, just talk with her when you have a chance and tell her what happened–you were engageed without annoucning it and you started planning around a particular date. If she is pissy about it (and given the number of times I’ve seen this complaint on this WB site she may be) just know that your conscience is clear.

I personally think tha tthese concerns over close dates are silly and petty, but I guess people don’t have anything real to become upset about.

Post # 6
7774 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

They’re not family, so don’t worry about it. There won’t be much overlap in the guest list. And most of that overlap will be guys who don’t care.

I married 2 weeks after a good friend, in the same church. No dramas.

Post # 7
435 posts
Helper bee


I would tell them immediately that you are secretly engaged and have already booked your venue.  They might not have their date set in stone so they might want to change it if you let them know soon enough.

Post # 8
1431 posts
Bumble bee

Ya I would just tell them you set a date and put a deposit down so that if they don’t like that they can be the ones to change their date. It shouldn’t affect your wedding at all- or theirs. 

Post # 9
2324 posts
Buzzing bee

Relax & take a deep breath. This weddign should have no effect on your big day. Ensure that Fiance & best man chat about potential dates for bucks night etc so nothing overlaps – but get this done early to avoid future problems.

Post # 10
245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m getting married 1 month before one of my best friends. Neither of us is worried about each other’s weddding, we are both excited (we are in each others weddings as well) We just sorted out the dates for next summer so we know when each of of us is planning what for our wedding so we don’t try to overlap anything.

Post # 11
10453 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I agree that the only overlap will be guys mainly who don’t give a damn, so don’t worry. But if you think his fiancé will not like it maybe you should let them know soon so they can change their plans IF they choose to. It honestly wouldn’t bother me if one of my fiance’s friends was getting married a week or two before or after us, we’d have very few of the same guests.

Post # 12
1318 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

If he’s your best man, then he should already know that you are engaged and when your wedding is, right? So, there shouldn’t be a problem. Your friends may have two weddings to go to, but the majority of your guests will not be in attendence of both weddings unless he is also family. 

Post # 13
1460 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

This is really no big deal.  It’s two weeks not two days.  🙂

Post # 14
3886 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

If you’ve got a venue and a best man, you’re engaged.

Anyway, there’s no reason the two events can’t be scheduled 2 weeks apart. The whole concept of “stealing thunder” is overrated and silly. It’s not like his guests will spend all his wedding day thinking about your wedding, or vice-versa. There’s plenty of attention for everyone, and by the time his planning gets down to crunch time, your wedding will be over. Relax. This isn’t worth stressing over.

Post # 15
2 posts
  • Wedding: November 2012

I wouldn’t stress about this! We just got married & one of my bridesmaids married only 5 lady’s after us & I was a bridesmaid in her wedding too! It is good fun to have both weddings so close together. We also had an acquaintance get married the day before us & about 20 of our guests attended their wedding only the day before! In the grand scheme of things nothing to stress about! Maybe just mention to them that u have booked yours but can the keep it quiet until you announce!

Post # 16
909 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

My Future Sister-In-Law is getting married 2 weeks before my Fiance and I. Honestly, it’s not as big a deal as you think it’s going to be.

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