Post # 1
Groomsman # 1: was kicked out months ago due to crappy behavior.
Groomsman #2: called last week and all but dropped out because he 1) can’t find a babysitter. He had 2.5 years to find one and now can’t find one at the last minute. 2) can’t afford the gas…
Maid of honor #2 (i have 2): Left me a voicemail today and told me she can’t go bc her fiance can’t get the days off for work (he got promoted last week) and she doesnt want to go by herself (even thought she knows all my other bm’s)
Bridesmaid #2: Told me in person today that her school scheduled her graduation panel on the wedding day. She was bawling and could hardly speak. She’s working out some options (1: try to get the panel to agree to a different day, 2) have her uncle, a pilot, fly her up to the wedding after her panel although she will miss all the pix and most likely the ceremony as well, 3) get another student to switch another day with her, 4) skip the panel and postpone her graduation for another semester. i told her to not do that option.
My fiance and i both started out with 5 gm’s and bm’s and now we’re both down to 3 MAYBE 4 if we get some miracles. Can i get some prayers, fairy dust, happy thoughts, etc? Hoping for a miracle!
Post # 3
I know you must be extremely dissapointed at the crazy turn of events.
Hang in there, everything happens for a reason, I really believe that.
When your day comes, whoever is there, enjoy your day and don’t let anyone’s presence or lack thereof ruin it for you.
I hope it all works out and I wish you a truly beautiful wedding day AND marriage because at the end of the day, that’s the most important part.
Whatever happens, breathe, it will be okay.
Post # 4
AW! Best wishes for you. Your bm sounds like shes trying so hard! That’s really aweome of her! I would tell Maid/Matron of Honor to suck it up and practically beg her to make it. And the groomsman, maybe you could offer to pay for gas and/or a babysitter? Or call around and see if you can find one for him – ask if that’s okay with him first though.
Post # 5
Sending good thoughts your way….
Post # 6
@kafir: We tried offering to pay for his gas and have one of our mutual friends watch the kids but he refused. He said he “couldn’t do that to us” and would do his very best to figure it out his own way. I just wish he had used a bit more forethought and worked this out beforehand. :/ My Bridesmaid or Best Man is doing her very best i’m hoping she can work something out. As far as my Maid/Matron of Honor (who i have known for 20+ years, and i’m only 26), if she is willing to just drop out 4 days before my wedding because she doesn’t want to go by herself i’m going to let her. I shouldn’t have to beg her to be there for me. I’m just very disapointed in her :/ Here’s hoping it all works out for the best. thanks for your kind words.
Post # 7
Wow. I’m so sorry you’re going through with this. I hope everything works out well.
Post # 8
Sorry you’re going through this =(. Keep your chin up — I imagine it’s very dissapointing and hard to go through this but the fact of the matter is you’ll be marrying your love soon. =) That’s all that really matters. Best of luck!
Post # 9
The only justifyable one is bridesmaid #2, and even then she should be trying to get the day moved. The rest are total flakes, and you’re probably better off not having them in the wedding anyway! Real friends wouldn’t leave you high and dry on one of the most important days of your life. Good luck! I’m sure everything will be fine.