Post # 1
And I cant say its my fault! My fiance is out of control! lol We were suppose to keep our budget under $20k, then we go to other weddings before ours and my fiance added on plasma screens to our dj package (almost $2k added), then he thought our wedding was too short, so added an extra hour (another $500), ice sculputre ($500), uplighting ($1000), adding on additional hours of open bar ($1500) I know theres more but I cant think right now! Oh ya and the upgraded honeymoon!
I wish we didnt go to any other weddings after we got engaged so my fiance wouldnt have had all these crazy ideas to add on to our wedding! Anyone else have out of control fiances? lol
Post # 3
I’m more out of control than FI is but I’m not that crazy. I would try to explain to him that the things he is adding is not going to make a better wedding.
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2015 - Diplomat Country Club
No and i’m trying to keep him out of the loop cause if he knew I much how was actually spending he would think I’ve lost it LOL but he did upgrade our honeymoon without telling me but i still know cause i got the email confirmation LOL crazy dude
Post # 5
Is it a financial hardship? Are you paying for it together? Is family pitching in? Will you have to put any of it on credit?
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Yikes! Other than the extra hour (and maybe upgraded honeymoon-not sure what that entails), I wouldn’t do any of the others.
I don’t even know what plasma screens at a wedding means- is that a slide show or something??
Post # 7
I won’t say that my FI is out of control… but we have added stuff and are now currently over budget. He decided to pay for hotel rooms for his groomsmen the night before the wedding, and we’ve also added a videographer. I’m really hoping his parents decide to chip in a little extra lol
Post # 8
Question: What does the TV add to the experience? Have you noticed that if there’s a television in the room 98% of people will stare at it and only it? That’s why there’s only one in the house…I can’t stand them
Post # 9
@lindseyl06: hes not doing it to make it a better party he just wants to do it.
@NAvery: no financial hardship, any extras he wants to add on he is paying for himself.
@rebwana: The plasma screens will play videos of songs playing, they take pictures of people around the room during the night and put them up on the screens and will play slideshows during our first dance and father daughter dance.
I didnt really care too much about the tv screens, actually none of that stuff really mattered to me at all, it was all him, thats why hes paying! =)
Post # 10
I wouldn’t say he’s out of control, but he defintely needs a lesson on what a budget is. We’re having a budget wedding and we (I) have a budget. So far he’s added:
Chair covers (because he wants them)
More people to the guest list
He wants live music for the ceremony (just an idea right now)
And he wants a band for the recption.
None of this is fitting into my budget so he is paying for it all (all the extras). I am fine with that. It is OUR money and I really don’t want to spend a dime more over our budget especially on just 1 day but it’s his wedding too, so if he wants it, he can get it. He says our wedding will be the wedding og the decade. At least he’s excited LOL.
Post # 11
@bridalprincess: lol my FI is saying the same thing! He wants to throw the best party ever! lol I told him he could do whatever he wants as long as hes working OT or doing whatever he has to do to get them!
Post # 12
ours is doing the same. We’re both happy for the additions. It would feel stressful if he were spending on things I didn’t reallly want or care about.
Post # 13
Your FI should have some ownership over the budget – have you shown it to him? Does he have some more money somewhere? You should talk about these things and make the decisions together. It seems like a bad sign if he overspends without talking to you about it.
Post # 14
@AlwaysSunny: He is fully aware of the budget and the total overall amount we are spending. We both have separate finances together with our combinded finances. This has been the way since we moved in together three years ago and it always works for us. of course my separate account is pretty bare since I like to spend things and he likes to save.
He lets me know what he is purchasing and if I think its too over the top I do put my foot down, the things hes adding on im not upset about. I like the extra lighting and ice sculptures, ect, its just not something I would have originally put down as a need to have in our original budget.