Well, I shouldn’t complain really. We were only spending 2000 (more or less) before, but now with the reception it’s going to be $4000. We had vowed to only spend the money we already had (no going broke) so we knew it was going to be a budget affair, but $4000 would have gotten my tickets to Paris
I don’t even get the Chivari chairs i’ve been so desperatly wanting. Now that we have to rent different chairs for the reception (banquet chairs are UGLY, and chair covers to buy cost as much as renting the padded resin chair), so to make room, I doengraded my ceremony chairs.
Grrrrrrr.Nothing is turning out the way I wanted it. Oh well. I just gotta let go.
Eep! Is it going to be OK?
Why did it go up so much? I am making a budget now and this scares me.
Aww, I’m sorry! What happened to make it go up so much?
Well, my mother was supposed to help with the cost of the reception (as well as his family-his words) becasue we didn’t WANT all the things that come with a normal reception: a dj, cake, decor, tableclothes: it’s too much! But my mom pulled out her $800, and his family told him they’re paying for the cost of the Rehersal Dinner. Well, that’s wonderful-but I wasn’t going to have one! I hate the FI told me his parents were going to help with a certain amount($500) when he didn’t even know if it was true! Ahhh!!!!!!
Also, I wasn’t doing too many bridemaids (only my youngest sisters) and I bougth their dresses from david’s bridal and chose the color I did BECASUE the dresses were only $30 shipped. Now we have 2 more bms-that’s more dresses, more hair, more makeup, more flowers!
It’s adding up. I feel like we’re being nickled and dimed.
edited becasue I forgot a main part of my comment
@MissFireFlower: I’m sorry that it’s all adding up, but if it makes you feel any better chairs tend to be one of those things that we stress about before the wedding but that no one notices on the day. They’ll remember a good atmosphere, a bride and groom who come and say hello and they’ll remember good food and drink (even if it’s not posh) but the chairs will be forgotten.
When you are working on a budget, try and always ask yourself…what will the guests remember about the day? For instance, I do not remember the type of chair I’ve sat on at any wedding, Chivari or not. At the end of the day, that’s not what people are looking at. When you are working with a budget, things like that that fly under the radar are just not worth it.
Did I love the chairs at me venue? Not at all. They were banquet chairs covered by chair covers that the venue provided (and I happen to HATE the way chair covers look). But there were so many things I could do to the room that would be much more impactful. For instance, I left the blah chairs and instead rented a few crystal centerpieces to alternate with flowers, which really brought the focus onto the tables so you didn’t even notice the chairs.
Just try not to get the rose colored glasses of wedding planning that convince us that it’s not a wedding without these minute details. Your day will be beautiful regardless of the chairs people rest their butts on!
Thanks. I know the padded wooden chairs will look ok too. It was just the one last thing I was holding on to. I feel like my vision slipped away. No more live music, as we need to hire a DJ, no more chairs, as we have to have chairs at the reception site too, no more crystal trees, as we need reception decor.
One of the perks of having a tiny wedding was that I could have a hire cost per person and it still wouldn’t break the bank.
I know I’m whineing. I’m just upset. My dream has slipped away
I started out with a $5000 budget.
HA HA HA!
It’s now up past $15,000. BUT that is because we have had a LOT of family helping us out, so that by the end of this we will not owe a penny.
I can’t believe I thought I could have my dream wedding for $5000.
@MissFireFlower: If it helps at all, I prefer DJ’s at weddings because it’s easier to dance to
Just don’t dwell on it. Even the best laid plans have to change sometimes. I went out of my way to plan everything for the perfect outdoor ceremony, only to get rained out and have to move it inside on the wedding day. Dwelling on it doesn’t change it, the important thing is despite all these little details, is you get to marry your best friend and the day will mean to world to you because of that and that alone.
I hear you. Things do start to add up, even with the most careful of budgets. I started out with a budget of $3000. I decided to increase it to $4000 so I could get some things I wanted. I then increased it again to $5000. I did NOT want to spend that much $ on a one day party… for me, that is a lot of money and there is so much more I could do with that. When I started, my budget included our honeymoon, now with the $5000 increease, it doesn’t. BUT I am getting almost everything I want and so I am thankful for that.
I actually was scared to let fi know how much we were up to becuase he didn’t want a wedding or anything big… I was so hesitant to tell him. When I asked him to venture a guess, he said $10,000. I about died. He was pretty happy with a $5000 budget, he actually asked if that was all. I know in the wedding industry, $5000 is not much but here it goes a long way and because I wanted the dream wedding, I had to pony up the extra dough.
@MissFireFlower: Sorry this is happening to you, but you’re right. It seems like with every turn of wedding planning, the cost keeps going up. Hopefully his family will come around and help you guys out a bit. Best of luck.
@meetmethere2013: HAha! I thought I could have a dream wedding on a 5k Budget too!
We are paying for everything (or 90%) ourselves and our budget started at 5K and it’s ending up close to 7K now (maybe even more the closer we get to our wedding!)
@MissFireFlower: what about using the white garden chairs as reception chairs? They aren’t as expensive as the chivari chairs but at least you won’t have to use $$$ to buy chair covers.
@MissFireFlower: I’m sorry to hear that things are getting to be so frustrating.
Weddings are expensive and you won’t believe the last minute costs that add up quickly. Our initial $25K budget tripled and we were shocked at all the nickel and diming that occurred within the last couple months right before our big day.
The key is to focus on those things that are really important to you. Make a list if necessary of things you are not willing to give up and a list of things you don’t mind cutting, or cutting back on. At some point with your budget versus your list you may have to either make sacrifices or increase the budget….that just goes with the territory.
I wish you the best of luck and I am sure it will come together beautifully!
Thank you, everyone. I was still trying to NOT use the money we had put away for a down payment on the house and try to buy a house this year too. Ha. Not going to happen.
Fi had already figured we’d spend arround $5-7k and buy a house NEXT year, but we’ll spend 7k over my dead body LOL
I think I’m ok now. Thanks ladies 1