Post # 1
me and my husband-to-be have finally picked a new last name to share. he will do a regular name change with the court then i will take his name when after we get married. this is the easiest and cheapest option.
so this is the name:
it is a combination of some of the letters of our current last names.
we are going to start the process this monday! how exciting. we have already downloaded and filled out the paperwork from our city’s website.
so what do you think?
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2018 - Rainforest wedding, beachfront restaurant reception
I think it’s pretty. Congratulations on your new name
Post # 5
For fun, I Googled it and came up with this:
"VALIS is a 1981 science fiction novel by Philip K. Dick. The title is an acronym for Vast Active Living Intelligence System"
Post # 8
FYI – changing your name is a total PAIN. I used the kit available on http://realgreenweddings.blogspot.com/ and it really helped. Good luck!
Post # 9
looks nice…how do you pronounce it?
Valees? ValISS?, Valish? Or something else?
Post # 10
Wow! How very cool.
Curious, what does his family think about it? I took my husbands name, although I teased him he’d be taking mine. (i like my last name- not common and italian, his is quite american "vanilla") My family was quite surprised I didn’t move my last name to my middle- – it just didn’t sound right.
And I guess I’m a traditionalist at heart….who knew!
Post # 11
it’s pronounced "ValISS".
my family is fine about it. they have always been pretty supportive even if they think it’s weird. they weren’t upset.
he’s actually talking to his family right now and they are very upset! we let them know about a year ago, so i don’t know why they are so upset now. i guess they didn’t think we were so serious about this.
i think his dad is the worst! he actually said a snide racist comment about me which is really hurtful. his dad must think i’m making him do this even though it’s was his son’s idea. and he is also being very sexist!
i had no idea he was like this. i always had my suspicions that his dad didn’t like me but my guy always dismissed it. now i know for a fact he doesn’t like me.
i don’t know what to do. i think you should just love your children. we aren’t trying to hurt anyone.
names have always changed and there was once a time when no one had a second name. times change! some people have too much difficulty adjusting.
Post # 12
oh and thank you all for the nice comments! it means a lot to me. 🙂
Post # 13
I like the name! LOL but it is a title of an old sci-fi book! I’m sorry about your FFIL But it sounds like your FI is very supportive. Good luck!!
Post # 14
Wow I must be living under a rock because I have never heard of that. It’s pretty cool actually, wish I had considered it:)
Post # 15
I dunno…sugary rocks…I know it wasn’t your idea….but I think it’s nice to take your husband’s name….it’s what’s been going on for a long time..way before you were around….it’s a tradition, but you are right it is a new day and age now….although just remember his dad may not be upset just because he may not like you…it is his family name…..and the family has every right to voice their opinions…good or bad….a marriage is a union of not just 2 ppl, but their families as well……this is just my opinion….
Post # 16
yes misspodo you have a point. he does think that way and finds it difficult to think of it in a positive way unfortunately.
he can only focus on "but no one does that" and "I named you that" and "you’re not a woman!"