Post # 1
I am new to these boards but thought this would be a good place to post an intro since I’m a chick marrying a chick. 🙂
We are from Texas and marrying in March of 2011 in Iowa. It sounded funny to me when I first said it out loud. 😉 Iowa is my F’s childhood home, she didn’t come to tx until she was 16… and since same sex marriage is legal there we decided it made the most sense. We will get to look around and check out her old “stomping grounds”, and it’s cheaper for us than any of the other states we could go to to have a LEGAL wedding.
For various reasons the legal aspect of it is very important to us.
Anyway, we are in our 30s, with 3 kids between us, and planning a very teeny tiny wedding, only because we don’t know that many people! I have a ton of thoughts and questions thougha and really am glad I decided to register here so I can finally get some of this stuff out there for feedback. My family is small, my mom is very slowly coming around (heck, she is just barely dealing with the fact that we are together and we’ve been together 7 years)… my brother is very supportive but no help with wedding planning. My F’s family is non-existent, so yeah, it’s a challenge…
We are planning on a small church wedding in Decorah, IA, with a vintage feel, and our reception will be a nice dinner out. We might have a later reception here in Texas, depends on who shows up in Iowa and who can’t come.
Post # 3
congrats and welcome! trust me it is so great to be able to just hop on the computer to get an opinion or ask a question! i dont know what id do without these boards! id be lost haha!
Post # 4
Your plan sounds lovely, welcome to WB 🙂
Post # 5
Congrats! We are having a “destination wedding” in Oklahoma City, and so far planning from afar has been a much bigger pain than I ever imagined.
Hang in there, and enjoy the ride!
Post # 6
Thanks for the warm welcomes!
Post # 7
Hey, I agree that that sounds really nice! What is it you need help with so far? Decor? These boards have been great for me and I hope they help you too.
Post # 8
Well, mainly the logistics of planning from out of state. We’ve chosen an adorable little town in NE Iowa, but just realized it’s at least a 1.5 hour drive from any airport, and 2.5 hours from the airport where SW Airlines flies in to (cheapest fares by far).. so I am hoping this won’t be bad for guests? Thinking maybe if people arrive on the same day we can drive to get them (we’ll have a rental and we’ll be there all week)..but we aren’t expecting a lot of people so I guess that’s a good thing.
Other things like choosing a restaurant, music, etc. It is scary to just go by reviews alone! We are having just a nice dinner in lieu of a reception but still, don’t want to pick a dud. Maybe we can scope some of this out when we get there, before the wedding.
Ditto for photographer, flowers. Deciding on things, like should we video tape the wedding, and should we go with a musician I’ve talked to who is SUPER nice and SUPER reasonable on price but I’ve never actually heard him play..
Sorry I’m just rambling at this point. 🙂 My thoughts are all over the place.
Anyone have thoughts on weekday weddings? We are thinking of a Thursday. Is that weird? It’s due to the fact that we are going to wed during spring break (we’re both in school, as are the kids)… and we have to do the 3 day waiting period in Iowa, and we want to go off on our own, sort of a ‘mini-moon” after the wedding but before returning to Texas so the only way this can all happen is if we do it on a thursday afternoon.
Post # 9
I’m an Iowan, though not familiar with Decorah. Where are you flying into? Are you set on Decorah specifically or would you be willing to have it in a “larger” city?
What sort of sources are you using to look for places?
Sorry for all the random questions!
Post # 10
Decorah is tiny. My fiance had no clue about it either; it’s really almost in Minnesota. I was googling stuff about marrying in Iowa and came across the website “Welcom in Decorah” (.com).. this little town is going out of its way to promote itself as welcoming to ALL couples. We were impressed by the site and by what we’ve been able to learn about the area.. it’s location means it’s not “typical” Iowa, or at least not what my fiance remembers growing up there (i.e. cornfields!), it’s supposed to be geographically attractive.
I’m just using the internet, plus a contact I made via the Unitarian Universalist church there in Decorah; there’s a guy who has been SO helpful with links to various resources for us.
We really hope to stick with Decorah but the main thing is the distance to/from any airports. We haven’t decided if we’re flying or driving (it will depend on money).. but IF we fly it will be into Minneapolis/St. Paul, two hours from Decorah, because it’s the only airport close that I’ve found that southwest flies into, and southwest is soooo much cheaper on airfare that it makes it worth the drive for us. I just worry that it may be annoying for any guests.
Also because Decorah is small, everything seems to be reasonably priced (that I’ve seen so far). If we don’t do it in Decorah I do think we want to stick to the more northern parts, near the Mississippi river and where it’s at least more likely to be snowy.. we know it’s a crapshoot on snow but we’d like to increase our chances anyway, for a snowy, wintry environment while we’re up there.
No need to apologize for the questions; they help me work all this out!
Post # 11
Welcome to weddingbee! You will love it here!
Post # 12
Woohoo! I was married in Des Moines- not sure how far Decorah is away from there but if you need any vendor recommendations that could travel let me know!
Post # 13
@MsInterpret: Congratulations on the wedding! I think it is wonderful that you can have it in a place that feels like “home” to at least one of you. Our wedding was in Massachusetts, which was not meaningful to either of us except that it was a place that would let us get legally married.
We had our wedding on a Tuesday. MA isn’t quite as strict as Iowa about the 3-day waiting period. (It’s pretty easy to go to court and get it waived.) However, we still had to be there on a weekday to go to both the marriage license office and the court. Tuesday worked fine for our tiny (12 guests) wedding. Obviously, if you were trying to have a huge wedding, fewer people would be there if they had to travel to get there and it is on a weekday. But if you want a small legal ceremony, followed by a larger at-home reception, the weekday wedding can work.
Post # 14
I think it would be so awesome if you could find a restaurant on the Mississippi to hold your dinner! Perhaps look online for places in Dubuque if Decorah doesn’t end up working.
Snow in March…hmmm…it could be snowy or it could be 60 degrees. This March during spring break I belive it got up to 70. But we are two hours south.
Idk what you’re doing for photography, but if you’re interested we used Big River Studio based out of Dubuque. Rachel shot our wedding, she did an great job, was very kind, and very affordable. She drove the two hours to our event too.
As far as other ways to search vendors, there are some in the Weddingbee Vendors section if you haven’t checked that out yet.
Post # 15
Thanks for the Dubuque suggestion! Are you in Dubuque or a different part of Iowa? I’m confused perpetually, sorry!
We are actually talking about moving to Iowa, maybe. We already have plans to move out of Texas anyway, had talked about Colorado, but really just want a place with four freaking seasons!! And trees that change color in fall!
I kidded my fiance that she just wanted to move to Iowa in case she wanted to divorce me (you have to live there for a while to be able to divorce)… I’m bad, I know.
Can I ask about how much your photographer cost? I am always shocked by the average amounts, but then I remember that includes a full day with reception, so I THINK we should be able to get off easier since we just want someone around to photograph us before the wedding and take ceremony pics, a couple hours max. I really want to find someone awesome though.
I am the most un-photogenic person ever, and have found only a special few people in my life that can ‘capture’ me and have it look good… one is a photographer friend that unfortunately now lives in Oregon.. otherwise we’d go with her!
Post # 16
@MsInterpret, we paid $400 for our photographer. That covered three hours of time (getting ready photos, ceremony, and formals of us and our dozen guests after the ceremony), a disk of all the edited images, and rights to use the photos however we wanted. It did not cover prints or albums, but we can make those as we need them.
We found him by looking on Craigslist for the wedding area, then following his link from Craigslist to see his Web site with previous wedding pictures he had done. The guy had been with a big agency for years, but couldn’t use any of his prior photos because the agency owned the copyright. Thus, he was willing to do photos at low rates to help build up his portfolio. He did gorgeous photos of us. And I’m noticing that it would now be more than twice as much to get the package we had.