Our dj & planner were great – should we tip them? how much?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Based on the details below- Who should we tip- dj? planner?
    Tip both (in addition to nice cards, reviews, and present for planner) : (7 votes)
    78 %
    Tip neither (nice cards & reviews & present for planner are enough) : (0 votes)
    Tip planner but not dj : (0 votes)
    Tip dj but not planner : (2 votes)
    22 %
  • Post # 2
    Member
    1649 posts
    Bumble bee

    A “tip” is a monetary gift to an underling, given in recognition of some personal service that you received, and its purpose in addition to thanking the service-provider is to make obvious that the relationship is an employer-employee relationship and not a friendship. You don’t pay off a friend for doing you a favour. As life goes on, appropriate boundaries become more and more important and most people increasingly see the value of keeping business transactions and friendships separate; and appropriate tipping is one way of doing so.

    A private contractor, or a business-owner, is not an underling; and treating them as if they were could be seen as patronizing. And you are already paying them, so the type of relationship has already been established. But now you are blurring the boundaries: gifts and nice cards are things that one does for a friend, not for one’s contractor. And yet, it sounds like both vendors went above and beyond the terms of their contract and its quite appropriate to feel that they deserve something more.

    So write them a nice letter of recommendation that they can put under the glass counter-cover in their shop to encourage future customers, in addition to the good review you put on Yelp. And then pay them a bonus — not a “tip” — and top it up that extra bit by the cost of the gift you were planning to give. I would be inclined to pay from a 10% bonus for good service that goes beyond the terms of the original contract, up to 20% for overwhelmingly awesome service that you just cannot stop thinking about.

    Post # 4
    Member
    8720 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Shkragoldfish:  if they own their own business a tip isn’t necessary. If they are not the owner then you can tip accordingly. I’m not sure about the planner but we gave each person that came to DJ $100 and we paid over $3k for our DJ. I didn’t have a planner.

    Post # 6
    Member
    1432 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I think it’s customary to tip both of these people. I will be, although my DJ and planner each work for a company, which is the entity we contracted with, so it’s a bit different than your situation. I’m thinking of doing 10% for both of them which will be $140 for DJ and $450 for planner (alot of money but she saved us that much on booze with her discount). Prob will round up to $150 and $500. I do also have a little token gift and card for my planner. I love her so much!!!

    Post # 7
    Member
    6525 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Shkragoldfish:  we gave $100 to each photographer and our videographer. ($300 total) and we gave $300 to our Dj crew ($100 each and there were 3)

    Post # 10
    Member
    6525 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Shkragoldfish:  they did own their own company but I still tipped them. They did such great work, super nice and their price was unbeatable. The Dj really worked with my budget-the pacjage he gave me would have cost over $3K anywhere else and he did my wedding for $2K, and was a friend of my sister. I actually wanted to give more but we couldn’t afford to give more than $100 per person

    Post # 12
    Member
    6525 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Shkragoldfish:  if you feel he (DJ) was great and want to tip him, don’t go crazy and give what you can afford. Chances are people don’t tip on top of a price that already includes gratuity! 🙂 

    I didnt have a planner so I wouldnt have the slightest clue on what to give. If it were me I wohld give some cash and maybe a gift basket (a bath gift basket, a wine gift basket). They have some really cute gift baskets online.

    Post # 14
    Member
    5883 posts
    Bee Keeper

    We tipped all vendors regardless if they were owners or not. Every one of them was exemplary both leading up to and including the day of. We kept the tips across the board almost the same in each category.

    We gave out many $100.’s that night and they all deserved it. If anyone was insulted by it, they certainly didn’t return them.

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