Post # 1
I see this debate come up a lot on these boards. A lot of factors go into whether to allow children at your wedding and I respect the reasons that some people don’t want kids there. But I will share our positive kids-at-wedding experience for what it’s worth.
We allowed everyone who wanted to bring their kids or babies. That meant we had 8 kids and 10 babies at the wedding (and 130 adult guests) and we don’t regret it at all. We thought it might be disasterous but it went perfectly. We were glad to have the kids and, most importantly, their parents there. If the kids weren’t allowed to come, many of the parents wouldn’t have come. That was the main factor in allowing kids.
We had an 11:30am ceremony and the reception ended at 6pm, so it’s not like we were going to have kids running around past their bedtime. Some other things that made our wedding fairly kid-friendly: we tried to sit some kids with other kids around their age (but NOT at their own table where parents couldn’t supervise/discipline), we put coloring books and crayons at any table with kids, , and the kid’s plate was mac and cheese and fried chicken and it was goooooood. I actually ordered an extra kids plate for myself after I saw how good it looked. The kids also liked the dancing.
We were worried because our ceremony was a 40-minute Catholic ceremony in a really fancy, formal church and part of the reception was in an art gallery, but the kids and babies were fine. I didn’t hear any crying or whining during the ceremony. I think maybe one parent had to go to the back but no one even noticed. Even our 5-year-old flower girl behaved. I heard one baby cry briefly during the reception but the parent handled it. Hardly any parents left super early for kid issues and no one seemed to be bothered by them.
So, if I could do it over again I wouldn’t change anything. If our wedding were in the evening I’d probably have a different perspective, but for our wedding having the kids there made it even more fun.
Post # 3
@SarahCF: THis is what people need to do: post their stories so us brides to be have an idea of how it all went. Thankyou!
Im glad it worked out so well for you guys, we have decided to let babies and kids come too, I do love them after all 😀
Post # 4
I had kids both in the wedding and at the wedding. i absolutely love the energy and all around cuteness they brough to make my day even more special! One of my nieces was one of my flower girls, look at her, how could she possibly have done anything but made the day more magical!
Post # 5
There were no kids crying or misbhaving through the ceremony and it was so much fun watching them build a straw forst after the ceremony out of our straw bale seating! I also loved watching them dance and just running around having fun. Granted I had a casual outdoor wedding that made it easier on them.
Post # 6
Spectacular! I’ll share mine as well. We had 150 total guests including 8 babies under 1, 4 toddlers, and about 4 gradeschool kids. We had an outdoor ceremony with nowhere to go if kids started crying. We hired a couple babysitters (the ladies that run the nursery for my dad’s church) and they watched about four kids at my Dad’s house during the ceremony. The rest just sat with their parents at the cermony and we heard not a peeo. And our ceremony was about 40 minutes. The kids ran around and played during cocktail hour, then ate the buffet that everyone else had, the danced their hearts out. A lot of the babies were for bridal party, so we had invited their parents and they cared for the babies later in the night so that parents could part. The night away. It was awesomeand I think the kids contributed to the fun, festive, party atmosphere.
Post # 7
@SarahCF: Perhaps because I’m at church most weeks, I don’t mind a bit of “kids noise” during the ceremony anyway. So long as no kid screamed (and at our wedding, none did), I was happy. I’m glad it went well for you too!