Weddingbee boards

Ok, maybe "'estranged"' is a bit harsh.  Maybe I should say: "man that apparently fathered my FI, who we have essentially no relationship with".  Ok, that was a bit harsh too.  How about this: "nice enough guy, who we don't know very well because we have very little contact with him".  Ok, that's better!  I should add...he does call now and again...

So, we're trying to minimize our quest list, you know, trim the fat! We're about 30 people over our, fairly cushy, "limit" (that limit is set by our budget, not by our reception venue capactiy).  Ok, Ok, well my parents, being the gracious hosts, said that we should ask FFIL if there is a friend from work or anything that he would like invited.  (The wedding will be awkward for him, he has no family, and treated FMIL very poorly, resulting in her family all hating him).  So I do feel a bit for him, he will not know many people, and those who he does know, already hate him.  That sucks.  Sooo, I nicely asked him if he'd like to invite a friend, and he got back to me with....SIXTEEN people!  Ohhhh man. 

What to do, What to do?  We were already trying to scale down!  Gahhh.....

Respond back to him that while you'd like to include everyone, that unfortunately you can't even include some of your own friends, and ask if he could pick one or two, who they would be.

If he insists, he's kind of being pompous and shouldn't have expected much anyways.