Our guests keep cancelling :(

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1190 posts
Bumble bee

@Pixie26:  hugs!!! I can understand the feeling about not feeling ‘loved’ by having a certain amount of people come. I had a graduation party 2 months ago, and I had 40 people RSVP. There were 7 people that showed up. :/ So… there’s absolutely no way that yours is going to be that bad. Trust me. And at least you’re not sitting there at your party wondering where the fuck ‘so-and-so’ is, at least they’re giving you the courtesy of not being no-shows. That ruined pretty much half of my party worrying where people were.

FYI: I still had a blast at my party. So YOU ARE GOING TO HAVE A BLAST AT YOURS REGARDLESS!!! Keep your chin up, buttercup!

Your party is going to be amazing! The people who matter, and who are important, are the ones that you want there anyways. Extra people are just a little bit of icing. They don’t take away from the cake. 🙂

Focus on you! It’s your day! Have fun!!!! 🙂

Post # 4
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Blushing bee

My wedding was like that.  Expected 60, got 35.  For years my MIL was angry that I wasted invites on her in-laws (my husbands aunts and uncles) and didn’t invite her friends.  So after six years I threw a party for my husband’s Doctorate.  I invited all the people my MIL thought I should have invited to the wedding, just to make a mends.  None of those people showed up anyway.

Post # 5
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3519 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@Pixie26:  fewer people means more time with everyone!  You’d have a great time if 40 people showed up… Congratulations!

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Mr TTR & I did something similar, we Eloped to a Destination Wedding over Christmas, just the 2 of us saying our Vows to each other on a beach.  It was devine.

After we got home from our Honeymoon, we had a Back Home Reception Party for Family & Friends…

Our Original Guest List saw about 100 People coming (out of about 125 Invited)

As it was a more “casual party” I didn’t get too crazy about the RSVPs

(also knowing how people these days can be uber casual “ya we’ll be there”)

Anyhow I planned accordingly, as it wasn’t a sit down we just ordered enough food, booze and cake and ran with it.

In the end, Mother Nature hit us hard… we had a BIG Snow Storm the day before, and freezing cold temps that Weekend.  By the time the evening rolled around, I had heard from a bunch of folks they could no longer make it.

I was heartbroken

But after the phone ringing off the hook all day, I just gave up answering, and let the machine pick up while I went on with necessary preps (like my Hair Appt, and getting dressed)

In the end, we saw about half our Guest List.  Not terrible, but not what we had hoped for.

I have to admit I was a tad sad at the beginning of the evening… but it didn’t last long… those that did come had an amazing time… and we all danced and laughed, and hugged and have tons of great photos of our nearest & dearest

And photos of the two of us celebrating our Wedding with those that matter most, and weren’t with us on our Big Day.

No regrets.

Promise, it will work out the same for you.  (( HUGS ))

 

Post # 9
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774 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - Dalhousie Castle

@Pixie26:  This happened to us, so I really sympathize. Between the 2 to 1 month left to go mark about 8 people just suddenly decided they were not coming to our wedding anymore. It was quite upsetting and made me feel quite low on people’s priority lists. One of them just gave me the lamest excuse as well, I so far, have not been able to bring myself to talk to her again. Haha. I am just really hoping that no one else no shows as we are having a sit down dinner with only 60 guests total, including us. It will be really noticable. 🙁 

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