Post # 1
Our guests keep inviting a plus 1 when it wasn’t on the invite. At first I was surprised and just let them know that we weren’t inviting random plus 1’s, and now it’s starting to get awkward. People keep telling me, “that’s not how it’s done” and “most weddings you assume you can bring a date” but this is our wedding and we want it to only be our close friends and family (the guest list is still 150!)
Am I wrong? Should I be allowing people to bring a guest if they really want to bring one?
Post # 3
People should never just randomly invite people to any event. If the invitation does not say “and guest” then they are in the wrong and it is just rude. Simply explain that you do not have it in your budget to add guests.
Post # 5
lol “That’s not how it’s done.”
Isn’t it done however the invite says it is?
Sure, allow people to bring guests if you want to, but you will be opening the floodgates for people and problems.
I’m sorry that a good portion of your guest don’t get it, but stick to your arrangement.
Post # 7
Thanks ladies! This really helps.
Post # 8
I can’t believe someone would invite a guest without being told it was okay and when you correct them, they say “That’s how it’s done.” Hm, maybe just maybe they said that because they were uncomfortable and didn’t know how else to respond.
Good for you for sticking to your plan!
Post # 9
That’s one of the things I’m concerned about going into my wedding because we want it small — the preliminary list including family/wedding party doesn’t top 75 — and I know there will be people who want to bring someone and that’s not how I want it. I don’t want a single person there who either of us doesn’t personally know. I say, stick to your guns and tell them it’s not in your budget for extra people. Unfortunately, some may decide not to attend because of this but that’s probably preferable to someone unknown showing up and potentially causing a scene.
Post # 10
One of our invites was for “1” and they were worded “have reserved # seats in in your honour”. This person called and asked if she could bring her boyfriend, was told no, spacing was too tight but we wanted her to be a part of the day. A week later, she sends back the RSVP with the “1” scratched through and wrote in “2” and then wrote both names!!! Seriously?
You cannot invite people to someone else’s wedding! Unacceptable!
Post # 11
In addition to stating the financial reason, I would simply tell those guests, “We have limited space and seating and are unable to accommodate any additional guests. We hope you understand and can still celebrate with us.”
Post # 12
I suspect the people that do this have no idea that you pay PER GUEST, aka have not done wedding planning themselves.