- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
My and my mister are not religious, but we are spiritual people and we wanted to have a ceremony that was secular but still sacred. Also, my dad is performing our ceremony but he has never performed a wedding ceremony before so I had to come up with the script for the ceremony on my own. I just finished writing the ceremony this weekend and I’m really happy with how it turned out! If you feel like reading it, I would love to hear some feedback! I replaced our names with Bride and Groom for privacy 🙂
Dad: We have come together here in celebration of the joining of Bride and Groom. Much wisdom concerning the joining of two souls has come our way through all paths of belief, and from many cultures. With each union, more knowledge is gained and more wisdom gathered. Though we are unable to give all this knowledge to these two who stand before us, we can hope to leave them with the knowledge of love and its strengths, and the anticipation of the wisdom that comes with time.
The law of life is love unto all beings. Without love, life is nothing, without love, death has no redemption. Love is anterior to Life, posterior to Death, initial of Creation and the exponent of Earth. If we learn no more in life, let it be this.
Marriage is a bond to be entered into only after considerable thought and reflection. As with any aspect of life, it has its cycles, its ups and its downs, its trials and triumphs. With full understanding of this Groom and Bride have come here today to be joined as one in marriage, in the presence of all that is sacred.
Dad: Please join hands and listen to that which I am about to say. Above you are the stars, below you are the stones, and as time does pass, remember
Like a stone should your love be firm, like a star should your love be constant. Let the powers of the mind and of the intellect guide you in your marriage, let the strength of your wills bind you together, let the power of love and desire make you happy, and the strength of your dedication make you inseparable. Be close, but remain individual. Possess one another, yet be understanding. Have patience with one another, for storms will come but they will pass quickly. Be free in giving affection and warmth. Have no fear and do not let the ways of the unenlightened give you unease, for love is with you always.
Groom, I do not have the right to bind you to Bride. Only you have this right. If it is your wish, say so at this time and place your ring in her hand.
GROOM: It is my wish. (Take ring from ringbearer, give to Bride)
Dad: Bride, I do not have the right to bind you to Groom. Only you have this right. If it be your wish, say so at this time and place your ring in his hand.
BRIDE: It is my wish. (Take ring from ringbearer, give to Groom)
Dad: Groom, place the ring on her finger and repeat after me:
I, Groom, take you Bride to my hand, my heart, and my spirit, to be my chosen one. To desire you and be desired by you, without sin or shame. I promise to love and respect you, wholly and completely, in sickness and in health, in plenty and in poverty. I shall love you in life and beyond, where we shall meet, remember, and love again, in the circle which has no beginning and no end.
Dad: Bride, place the ring on his finger and repeat after me:
I, Bride, take you Groom to my hand, my heart, and my spirit, to be my chosen one. To desire you and be desired by you, without sin or shame. I promise to love and respect you, wholly and completely, in sickness and in health, in plenty and in poverty. I shall love you in life and beyond, where we shall meet, remember, and love again, in the circle which has no beginning and no end.
Dad: (binds their hands with the binding rope – one wrap around after each sentence, and reads the Apache Wedding Blessing:)
“Now you will feel no rain, for each of you will be shelter for the other. Now you will feel no cold, for each of you will be warmth to the other. Now you are two persons, but there is one life before you. Go now to your dwelling, to enter into the days of your life together and may your days be good and long upon the earth.”
I pronounce you husband and wife. May your love so endure that its flame remains your guiding light.