- 3 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
DISCLAIMER: I know that honeymoon registries are controvercial. I know that some bees find them to be rude or tacky. That’s fine. I would encourage those bees not to use them. However, I’m hoping that this thread doesn’t devolve into a debate about whether or not they are a good idea. Rather, I would like to share our experience and offer some tips for other brides considering a honeymoon registry. Thanks.
Hello! Well we got married 3 weeks ago and are looking forward to our honeymoon which will be in another month. We have lived together for 3 years and have tons of stuff. We both love to travel and our family and friends know this. We planned a kick ass honeymoon – 3 weeks safari in Africa! We know that not everyone likes honeymoon registries – and that’s fine! – so we also wanted to have a more traditional registry. So we decided to have a honeymoon registry, a BB&B registry and an Amazon registry.
We invited 240 people (111 families). We had 150 attend the wedding. Breakdown of gifts (I promise I’m not gift obsessed. I’m Excell obsessed and want good records as I’m writing thank you notes):
- 26 gave cash (total $3220)
- 5 gave gift cards (total $200
- 23 gave on the honeymoon registry (total $2501)
- 5 bought off the BB&B registry
- 2 bought off the Amazon registry (but amazing, probably the 2 things I wanted most!)
- 9 bought off registry
- 8 friendors who gifted services (2 officiants, ceremony music, decorations, hairdresser, hors d’oeuvres, bought my dress, bartending)
So that’s a total of 78 gifts and 30% honeymoon registry.
We used honeymoonpixie.com and were really happy with them. Here are some things that we did that I think helped make our honeymoon registry successful:
- We realized that not everyone likes honeymoon registries – consider a traditional registry as well
- We had enough money to pay for the honeymoon without getting any gifts – althought now we’ll enjoy some extras that were gifted
- We chose to pay the site fees rather than have them paid by our guests
- We downloaded specific pictures for each gift and wrote personal messages for each gift. This is key. It’s like making food sound yummy on a menu.
- We included lots of fun activities – people like to gift fun things. Gifting a massage or camel safari is way more fun than gifting a plane ticket.
- We made sure we had lots of gifts with a wide price point. I had everything from $5 cocktails on the beach to a $200 hot air balloon ride. One thing I found interesting was that many people bought multiple small gifts rather than 1 larger gift.
- We split things up – You get to pick what you list as gifts and how much they cost and how many of them you want. Since most of our honeymoon is at all inclusives (they’re in the middle of nowhere so it’s the only real choice) and super expensive, I didn’t want to put just a few giant gifts. So I broke them down and assigned what I thought were reasonable prices. For instance: instead of $800 for a day at an all inclusive, I separated out the luxury tent for the night, a romantic dinner under the stars, a horseback safari and a trip to the local village. The key is that people want to buy you an experience. So long as you have that experience, the payment system doesn’t really matter.
- We are planning to take a bajillion pictures on the honeymoon and will take special care to get pictures of us doing each of the things we were gifted. We’re then going to send those pictures to the gift givers with a little summary of the trip and a thank you.
If anyoneis interested in looking at our site it’s here: https://honeymoonpixie.com/couples/jenanddavid/
Overall we had really really positive responses from people about how much they liked our honeymoon registy. I realize that people that don’t like it won’t say anything, but I still think it’s important to note how many people gifted through it and commented that they liked it. I was told many times that people liked it because they got to find out all about the honeymoon plans. I got many comments that people wanted to see pictures and hear stories. I think for many people (myself included) it is more personal than cash that ends up being used to pay for groceries but it’s practical and easy.
So if anyone has questions about how the honeymoon registry worked – feel free to ask. Or if people want to share their own personal experience with using a honeymoon registry – I’d love to hear!