- 3 years ago
- Wedding: September 2015 - Farm
I’m new here – I found this site accidentally while researching rings (go figure!) I ended up browsing the site and I really liked the community going here – and I decided to stay! I’ve already posted once asking for wedding dress advice, but I feel I should introduce myself to all you guys… even though I feel conceited sitting here writing about my engagement. LOL
My fiancé and I have been together 10 months now. He is 30 and I am 25. I am divorced, I got married my first time at 18 and was divorced by 20 and swore I would never marry again. My ex husband was emotionally and physically abusive, and cheated on me during more than half of our time together. My fi has had a couple long term relationships but never married, and has a 4 year old daughter who I adore. He also swore he would never marry, so the fact we are engaged seems to prove that everything changes when you find “The one!”
We met through mutual friends, and started out as friends at first. We were both nervous to start a relationship together as we had both been through relationship hell and what we had together just seemed too good to be true. I think our decision to jump in was the best decision we ever made. We were together 9 months before we really told my family. I have cut off my dad (who is abusive just like my ex husband) and my mom has been there with me through everything. I didn’t want to drag her though a relationship that might not work. Anyways, when we started talking about marriage and decided we knew we wanted to get married, it was time to tell my mom. The day I told my mom, he drove straight from his work to ask for my moms blessing. To be honest, I think my mom was as excited as I was!! That weekend, my family had planned a family get together and we knew we needed to announce it to my family then, but we didn’t have a ring, which bothered him.
This is what I thought was the sweetest thing. Friday night, I had accidentally left my rings I always wear at his house. When I got there Saturday morning, I went to get my rings off his dresser before we left for my family gathering, and there was a unfamiliar ring in the cluster.I held it up and told him that wasn’t my ring. He just smiled and said “Yes it is.” and I started crying. He was quick to tell me it was what he considered a temporary ring. He said he bought it in a rush, wanting to make sure I had something to wear to announce our engagement… but he knew it wasn’t my style and it was “cheap” as far as he was concerned, so it’s a placeholder until I find the ring I want.
We picked September 13, 2015 because I graduate college May 2015, and we don’t want to get married until I graduate, and here in the south June – August is smothering hot. Plus, I got married the first time in June. The 13th of September is when my Grandparents got married, so we decided to pick that day 🙂
I just realized how wordy this all is – I apologize! I have my ring picked out and I plan to order it this weekend. I’m searching for a dress obviously, and the fi and I spend alot of time checking out friend and family members lands for wedding spot ideas. We have our colors mostly picked out, he has his groomsmen picked out but I don’t have near as many girlfriends as he does guyfriends… so that seems to be a small issue lol. I don’t care though. He can have 80 groomsmen and me 2 bridesmaids… just the fact I am marrying the man of my dreams, my soulmate and starting a family is what matters to me!!!!
Anyways, if you read this – it means alot you muddled through all this to get to know us 🙂 If you didn’t, I can’t say I blame you!!! I look forward to talking to and getting to know all you bee’s!