Our "married home". Over thinking, under thinking? Plz help!

posted 3 years ago in Home
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Djacks88:  I think it’s time for a new sign!  If it didn’t have a date on it, it wouldn’t be an issue for me.  While it’s not a huge deal to leave it, it’s no big deal to change it either!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@Djacks88:  that is kinda sticky I would probably leave it because of the children but it’s totally up to your and your FI.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

Think of it as in, he established (built) this house in 2006.  That is where the established came in!  Not his marriage to his ex-wife.  🙂

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@Djacks88:  Yep, time for the sign to be updated! That doesn’t take away from his previous family, it just adds to it. Perhaps it would be best to do away with the “Established” bit all together….

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Djacks88:  I would read it as the house was built February 1, 2006 and I think that is very cool to have since he built it with friends.  I personally don’t see it having to do anything with the ex wife.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@Djacks88:  Why not buy him a new one with your wedding date on it and present it to him as a wedding gift?

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Djacks88:  I would actually leave it. The sign above say “Custer House” so it could be appropriate as that was the time he moved in. Had the sign actually said “Custer Family” then I would change it out.

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Djacks88:  That sign would bug me, too.  Would he agree to removing it, at least from the front door so you don’t have to be reminded of his ex every day?  Maybe he could give it to his kids and let them put it up in another place, like their playroom if they have one. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’d leave it because it pertains to the children and the fact that he built the house himself, and that is his last name..seems appropriate.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2012

I would like it removed too. 

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

I would definitely think that the house was built in 2006.  Unless they were married Feb 1, 2006, I wouldn’t take this too personally because it’s obviously referring to the house and not the ex wife.  I say leave it be for now but if it’s still bothering you after the wedding then get a new sign but I’m not sure what it should say so as not to leave the sons out of the family concept.  Maybe it would be best to remove the sign altogether.

Post # 16
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Helper bee

@sugar_biscuit:  That’s what I thought, too. If it had their wedding date, then I would be miffed.

Maybe a new one, like other PPs have suggested. 

Something like, The Custers 

                        Built 2006

                        Est. 2014

Does that seem silly? 

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