(Closed) Our money?

posted 6 years ago in Money
Post # 3
3081 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Hm, perhaps this is something that his parents did or he grew up with and just thinks is normal. Either way, I think you just need to talk it out with him. He might have had no other intentions than what he said up front, but a discussion should surely alleviate your confusion. 

Post # 4
2398 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I would just enjoy it…lol 

Post # 5
9631 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@ashasmith:  It sounds like he’s being generous (hopefully)!  Maybe this is something his dad did for his mom to be nice and give you some “girl” spending money without feeling as though you need to account to him for every purchase. 

I agree with Kate02121 that you should talk with him and find out for sure.

Post # 6
5670 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think you need to have a serious conversation of what you both expect. You said you combined accounts, but it sounds like he still wants to have seperate accounts. If so. whtat will be paid out of each account and how much will each of you contribute to your joint accounts. Darling Husband and I have a joint checking and 2 joint savings accounts. We do have seperate credit cards but the bills are paid for out of our joint checking. This works best for us but some people also like to keep their own account for numerous reasons. Just talk to him.

Post # 7
1361 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Woah, this is weird to me.  Do you have a job?  If so, I think it’s presumptuous of him to give you an allowance.  If you wanted your own spending money, you could open your own account and just put some of your paycheck in there.

Post # 8
3886 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

This is a little weird to me, but that’s because my fiance and I both have large salaries. If you’re not working outside the home, or if he earns significantly more than you do, then it’s a lovely gesture, although if you’re not comfortable with it, you should graciously decline the offer.

My Mr and I each contribute to a joint checking and a joint savings account out of each paycheck, and we use that to pay the bills and do house stuff; we also have a joint credit card that we use to buy car repairs, vacations, and other big-ticket things (we pay it off regularly but like getting the airline miles on big purchases). We also each have our own credit cards, checking and savings accounts. There really are purchases that are just for him, or just for me, and this eliminates any potential for arguing over do we really need that xbox when the old one is perfectly good. Plus it is far easier to purchase surprises for one another.

Post # 10
11752 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Sounds good to me – he’s taking care of you! 

Post # 11
5243 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I would be very happy to receive that! Like a pervious poster said I think he is just trying ot take care of you and I wouldnt read much into it

Post # 13
8884 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I have the same “issue” going on right now. Since we moved in together, we’re about to open a joint back account and he keeps referring it as “our money”. He makes 3 times what I do and I tend to feel guilty. It’s going to take some getting used to, but I know I will. You will too 🙂

Post # 14
1438 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Maybe its his way of telling you to enjoy yourself, buy yourself things he cant get for you. I wouldnt worry about it, hes just trying to be nice and make sure you have enough money at all times.

If you dont want to use it then save the money he is putting in there & save up for a vacation!

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