- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
Just thought i would share our non-religious ceremony. It was about 20 mins, maybe 25…
I know what it was like to search and search for non-religious wording. You may have seen some of these readings etc posted around but here is mine all put together.
Word of Welcome
On behalf of X and Y, I welcome you and thank you all for gathering here on this beautiful day to witness their marriage ceremony. The fact that you all have travelled a distance to be here today is a testament to the amazing amount of love and support they have, (and to see if this is really happening). Many of you have given them much happiness, love, warmth, and guidance through the various stages of their lives. They would like to sincerely thank you all for being here to celebrate their big day. By your presence, you celebrate with them the love they have discovered in each other and you support their decision to commit themselves to one another for the rest of their lives.
A special and respectful acknowledgement must also be made to those friends and family members who were unable to attend, or have passed on, but whose spirit remains alive and strong in all our hearts.
I have also been asked by X and Y to thank their parents for the wonderful lives they have given them, for the hard work and guidance they have provided, for their everlasting love, support, and encouragement. It is from them that they have learned the true meaning of love, friendship and family.
(ask parents to stand)
X & Y wish to let you, their parents, know how much you mean to them and how important you have been to them from the very beginning. As you have watched and guided them and encouraged them to be the people they are today, so have you been there when they found each other.
Today you are witnessing another stage in the lives of your son and daughter. Your continuing support and encouragement will be needed as X & Y unite in marriage. It is now their desire to broaden their family circles, maintaining the heritage with which you have provided them. They will explore new directions, but keep also the tried and tested lessons of their earlier years. Will you who have loved and encouraged these two, support their marriage with your love, guidance and wisdom?
Parents reply: We do
Charge to the couple
Marriage is perhaps the greatest and most challenging adventure of all human relationships. As good as I may be… and believe me, I am very good… No ceremony can create your marriage; only you can do that – You have chosen to walk through life together. There is no truer statement of love. The choice was not made by any one moment, but by being together you grew to realize that you belonged together and that you fulfilled each other’s needs. You have come to thrive upon each other’s presence, loyalty and wisdom. The foundation of your love is profound friendship. A friendship you have nurtured until at last you realized that you wanted to be together always. The commitment you make today will be the foundation on which you will build your life together
We who are present today, hope that the inspiration of this moment will never be forgotten. May all your days and years to come be filled with vision, joy and passion. May the love you now share continue to grow, and may the happiness you bring to each other be a continuing part of your life together. May you continue to laugh often and enjoy each other every day, steadfast in hope and confidence, believing in yourself and believing in each other. May your love be a sanctuary and a source from which you draw strength to live your lives with enthusiasm and imagination. May the people you touch in your lifetime know how much you love and care for one another and may you love one another forever.
Expression of Intent
X and Y, do you pledge to each other to be loving friends and partners in marriage. To talk and to listen, to trust and appreciate one another; to respect and cherish each other’s uniqueness, and to support, comfort, and strengthen each other through life’s joys and sorrows. Do you promise to share your hopes, thoughts, and dreams as you build your lives together. (We do)
To make a marriage work, we learn to overlook and forgive the things that may frustrate us. Like X being absent-minded and always leaving his stuff where it doesn’t belong. Or Y being stubborn and always having to get the last word. These two are promising to stick together through all the unfolded laundry, dirty dishes, and cheesy movies. To support one another through all the bad traffic, annoying co-workers, and Call of Duty losses.
But marriage isn’t all bad… it’s also about having someone to laugh with, to hug, and, when needed, pull your finger. It’s having someone who will get your dumb jokes and obscure movie references. Marriage is having a confidant, a partner in crime, and a best friend.
Reading (Brides sisters)
The Promise of Marriage by Bettie Meeks
Marriage is a promise of companionship, of having someone to share all of lifes experiences.
Marriage does not promise that there will not be any rough times, just the assurance that there will always be someone who cares and will help you though to better times.
Marriage does not promise eternal romance, just eternal love and commitment. Marriage cannot prevent disappointments, disillusionment, or grief, but it can offer hope, acceptance, and comfort.
Marriage can’t protect you from making individual choices or shelter you from the world, but it will help to reassure you that there is someone by your side who truly cares, when the world hurts you and makes you feel vulnerable, marriage offers the promise that there will be someone waiting to listen, to console, to inspire.
Marriage is the joining of two people who share the promise that only marriage can make… to share the sunshine and the shadows, and to experience a richer, more fulfilling life because of it.
The Hands Ceremony
X & Y, Please face each other and take each other’s hands, so that you may see the gift that they are to you.
These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and full of love for you, that are holding yours on your wedding day as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow and forever.
These are the hands that will work along side yours as together you build your future.
These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, and with the slightest touch will comfort you like no other.
These are the hands that will hold you when fear or grief temporarily comes your way.
These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes, tears of sorrow and tears of joy.
These are the hands that will give you support and encouragement to chase down your dreams.
These are the hands that will hold you tight as you struggle through difficult times.
These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it.
These are the hands that will lift your chin and brush your cheek as they raise your face to look into eyes that are filled with overwhelming love for you.
And lastly, these are the hands that even when wrinkled and aged will still be reaching for yours, still giving you the same unspoken tenderness with just a touch.
Now we will have the best man and maid of honor tell you the meaning of love as defined by Calvin and Hobbes.
Calvin: Hobbes, What’s it like to fall in love?
Hobbes: Well… say the object of your affection walks by…
Hobbes: First, your heart falls into your stomach and splashes your innards. All the moisture makes you sweat profusely. This condensation shorts the circuits to your brain and you get all woozy. When your brain burns out altogether, your mouth disengages and you babble like a cretin until she leaves.
Calvin: THAT’S LOVE?!?
Hobbes: Medically speaking.
Calvin: Heck, that happened to me once, but I figured it was cooties!
Exchange of Vows
(Bride and Groom) ( Rock Paper Scissors to see who goes first)
Exchange of Rings
Will you, X, love Y with all your heart and keep her as your wife for the rest of your life? ( I Do)
Will you, Y, love X with all you heart and keep him as your husband for the rest of your life? ( I Do)
Decleration of Marriage
X & Y, remember to treat both yourself and each other with respect, and remind yourselves often of what brought you together. Give the highest priority to the tenderness, gentleness and kindness that your connection deserves. When frustration, difficulty or fear assail your relationship – as they threaten all relationships at one time or another – remember to focus on what is right between you. In this way, you can ride out the times when clouds hide the face of the sun in your lives – remembering that even if you lose sight of it for a moment, the sun is still there. And if each of you takes responsibility for the quality of your lives together, your life together will be marked by abundance and delight.
Give to one another new experiences of joy. Challenge one another so that you may grow. May the love you hold for each other, now sealed in marriage, continue to mature with the passing years. May you never take each other for granted, but always experience the wonder of your union. Be slow to anger, quick to forgive, leaving no tracks of resentment behind each day.
It is my pleasure to announce you husband and wife
You may now gross everyone out!
Signing of the Register
I now invite you and your chosen witnesses to come forward and seal the deal!
(Return to the front for special instructions to the guests and introduction as newlyweds.)
Let us all celebrate as I have the great joy to be the first to introduce to you our newlyweds
Bride and Groom