Our officiant didn't give us a price?

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
43300 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

futureladyharvey:  If you are communicating via email, send him one just enquiring about the church’s policy regarding the fee for the officiant and any other fees that may be required.

Post # 3
1878 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Valparaiso, IN

Our church is free to use for members. So my guess is, if you’re directly related to the members of a church , their son or daughter, it’s free. I would ask to be sure though.

Post # 4
552 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

In my experience most churches don’t charge members. They appreciate donations (we gave our church $800), but don’t expect them. I would confirm this either on the phone or in person, but I think that’s probably why he didn’t give you a price.

Post # 5
145 posts
Blushing bee

If he did not mention a fee, he probably does not charge. BUT, I would ask them what the gift or gratuity policy is. This is important. For example, at my (Roman Catholic) church I have to make the check out a specific way as a gift to the Deacon or else the Deacon has to turn the money over the church. So, be sure to ask! The Deacon said the gratuity average here in Texas has ranged from $50 – $200. 

Post # 6
179 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I think all officiant have their own set of style of handling the inquires for their services.  My officiant didn’t mention the fee to me as well over the phone.  Instead what happen was we met and chatted with each other to because she wanted to ensure we felt comfortable with her.  She talked about her services and mentioned that she had different typical vows we can mix and match.  After we confirmed that we would definitely want her to perform the ceremony did she start talking about pricing.

There was another marriage commissioner I talk to over the phone and he was pretty much ‘I will book you now!’ Of course it fell through because he had another marriage to perform during ours.

So perhaps your marriage commissioner feel that these are sensitive topics that should be communicated face to face rather than through email.

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