Post # 1
it’s not really a big deal… but our parents don’t really care about our getting married.
it’s his second marriage, so…. they i guess they are all “been there, done that” for him and figure he woldn’t mind since he had their support already for a first marriage.
okay but it’s my first and only marriage. i would like my parents to be all excited and happy, but they don’t really care at all. i’m the oldest daughter and i always kinda thought i’d be the first to get married too… but i’m the third one to get married (and it will be the fourth wedding since one of my sisters already has divorced and re-married) so they don’t seem to give a crap about it anymore.
i know it’s not a really good reason to gripe… it’s not like they are all against our wedding or anything. it’s just kinda depressing to not have anyone to share my excitement with…
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2011 - Mackinaw Valley Vineyard; Bloomington Center for the Performing Arts
(my post got cut off…) I definitely feel like family and friends weren’t as excited about my plans at first. As we get closer and the wedding, it seems more ‘real’ to them and now they have been getting excited. Hopefully they will come around as you get closer too, but you’ll always have the hive.
Post # 5
was there initial excitement? I know with my wedding planning, since i got engaged about 20 months before we want to get married, there was a lot of initial excitement, now it’s all died down and i don’t expect it to pick up for another 6-8 months or so.
Post # 6
Having family not be too psyched is a bummer, but do you have a support group of friends that can share in your excitement?
When I first got engaged there was a huge uproar among my friends and family (I am the first of my generation in my family to take the plunge), then it……. stopped. I live 700 miles away from my whole family and 1300 miles away from most of my friends, and I have noooooo friends where I live, so any wedding excitement comes via the occasional (once a month) phone call from a BM.
It’s lame, but it’s actually kind of relaxing to be able to plan in a very low-key emotional atmosphere.
Post # 7
I can totally empathize. We’re both the oldest children and the first to get married in both of our immediate families. Our immediate families are excited for us, but my extended family couldn’t care less. In fact when we told my grandfather he was like oh that’s nice, but I’m thinking about going to Mexico around the time of your wedding. Grr..
It’s a bummer to not have close family share your excitement. My family wasn’t originally excited, but as the time for the wedding draws closer they’re starting to feel the wedding frenzy. As it gets closer to your wedding day I’m sure the excitement will start to kick in. And like CharlotteMJ said, it might be nice to plan your wedding at a nice relaxing pace (and I say this with love but, FIs family is slowly driving me insane with all of their wedding inquiries – where are you staying? does your room have a view? I want to stay in the same hallway, what’s your room number? Does my outfit match your decor? Ahhh! Their excitement is making me crazy!)
And like Ms. Pony said – you have the bees!
Post # 8
Ugh…me too, me too. I am the oldest daughter, my sister married a few years ago, and my parents didn’t really care about hers either. They gave her a few bucks (we don’t ask for anything) and showed up. They also complained that I was there. I flew down with my daughter (2 at the time) and they were upset that I didn’t tell them I was coming. Hello? It’s my sister. She lives 1000 miles away but what’s going to stop me?
Parents, who needs em.