Post # 1
So I’ve spent forever researching photographers, found one we really liked and have spent the past 3 months emailing back and forth with them. When we booked our date, I let them know and set up a time to meet with them. We were supposed to meet yesterday, and he emailed me last minute and said another couple had just put down a deposit for our date and he had to cancel our meeting.
I’m so upset! I loved their work and they were within our budget. Our budget for photography is only $1500, which I know isn’t huge and why it’s going to be so hard finding someone else with quality work for that price!
I feel like we’re getting down to the wire and are going to have a hard time finding someone not booked, especially since our date is in such a popular season.
Freaking out mode!!!
Post # 3
I’m sure you’ll find another photogapher that works for you. Photography was a big priority for my wedding, so it was the first vendor I booked after I locked down my date and venue. Once I decided on other vendors, I was quick to send them a deposit to save the date and basically told them we could work out the details later.
Post # 4
@kb7: that seems pretty rude of the photographer actually. Generally when you were the first to contact them, they set that date aside, and should anyone come along and request that date – usually they give you first right of refusal. But maybe the delay over the last three months made him wonder if you were serious and would actually hire him, but still he should have told the couple that hired him, that someone else has tagged this date and I will give them 48 hours to refuse. That’s what I’ve encountered in the photography world (for the most part).
Post # 5
Yeah honestly I thought it was pretty rude they didn’t even tell us there was another couple considering our date. The only reason it took 3 months is because we were having a hard time finding a venue, which I kept him in the loop with. As soon as we booked our date, I emailed him. I even kept asking about open dates and said I wanted to book our venue around dates that the photographer was available.
He said he hopes there are no hard feelings in his email. If you have to say that, there are hard feelings.
Post # 6
That sucks, but I am sure you will find another. Just curious – why were you emailing with them for three months prior to booking anything? I met with my vendors quickly after initiating contact and locked them down. I have a feeling he thought you were not serious, or came across a more low maintenance bride.
Post # 7
that sucks, but why did you wait until 3 months of emailing to set up the meeting? definitely leaves lots of opportunity for someone else to put a deposit down!
hope you find someone 🙂
Post # 8
I emailed them as soon as we got engaged, and needed to book the venue and set our date before booking other vendors.
Post # 9
if you were emailing back and forth for 3 months, could you not meet him sooner to put a deposit down. maybe he didn’t this you were serious?
as a curtesy he should have called you first to let you know another couple was interested in the date.
but that being said, you did not put money down and therefore he had a guarentee.
good luck in your search.
Post # 10
The second we set our date, I emailed them to see if they were still available and set up a meeting with them.
Post # 11
In your most recent emails, did you make it clear to the photographer that you intended to book them for that particular date? Was the meeting you scheduled just to put the deposit on the date? Once you booked the venue/date, I think I would have sent a check by mail immediately for the deposit. Wedding photographers book up so quickly it’s ridiculous.
Post # 12
@kb7: That’s so annoying. We had that happen to us, too. Personally, I think if both parties are ready to make a deposit, it should go to whomever contacted the photographer first. In our situation, it should have been us, but because the other couple had a meeting in the morning and ours was in teh afternoon we got screwed. In the end we ended up with a way better photographer anyways but I totally hear you on how frustrating it is.
Post # 13
@kb7: This is exactly what happened to us!!! I am still secretly gutted and look at her work all the time but we found another photographer who is (almost) as good which I’m sure you’ll do the same!!!
Post # 14
He should have warned you that without a deposit or retainer fee, his policy is that the date was up for grabs. ALL of the photographers we spoke to made this clear to us from the get-go, no matter how serious we were or how many times we communicated with them.
This is a question that needs to be asked at the start. Also understand the difference between a deposit and a retainer fee (just in case).
Post # 15
Yes, I made it clear we intended to book them. I wanted to meet them in person first before sending money. I guess I feel like it’s a little crazy to send money to someone you haven’t even met in person before. What if they turn out to be whack-o’s?
Post # 16
Thanks for all of the responses/advice. Operation find someone better!!!