- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2010
so i’ve been working with my godfather (who’s also our minister for the wedding)…and I really wanted to incorportate something of my church into our ceremony – even though we’re not getting married IN a church…
i grew up as a “soldier” in the church of the Salvation Army. There are many symbols in the church and one is their flag which is red, yellow and blue.
Even though I haven’t actually gone to services in over 10 years – my family is still a huge part of the church and I’ve always been part OF it – just haven’t gone to services.
so anywhoo. my godfather is a Salvation Army Officer (just retired) and so obviously is the perfect person to help write this…
I just wanted to run it by the ‘hive and see what all of you think – from an “outsider’s point of view” as far as understanding what the symbolism is that I am trying to convey.
Most of the wording I got online – but a lot of the middle, he wrote to incorporate the information about our church.
Here is the wording that my godfather will read during for the sand ceremony:
(obviously when it says “Bride” my name will be stated and “Groom” his name will be stated)
I will have red – my husband will have blue and the minister will have yellow.
Bride and Groom, you have made a commitment here today to share the rest of your lives together. We have witnessed your giving and receiving of rings and the exchange of vows sealed with a kiss. What you are about to do now is create for all present, a lasting visual representation of these promises. This ceremony symbolizes the inseparable union of Bride and Groom into a new and eternal marriage bond.
Symbolism is a powerful tool to make a bold statement. Bride and Groom have chosen colored sand as a symbol because once poured together it not only blends together in beauty, but is forever inseparable. The colors of the sand, red, yellow and blue, were chosen to emphasize the spiritual nature of this union. Bride grew up in the Salvation Army Church for the first 18 years of her life. The colors of the Salvation Army Church flag are red, yellow and blue. The red symbolizes the blood of Jesus that makes a relationship with God possible. The yellow represents the fire of the Holy Spirit that empowers us to live true to that relationship and the blue represents the purity of God who desires that same purity for us. This is indeed a powerful symbolic statement that the bride and groom are pledging to live out in their lives and their marriage, knowing that a spiritual relationship with the living God will greatly enhance their personal relationship.
Bride and Groom will simultaneously pour separate containers of sand into a common vessel. Each grain of sand in their separate containers represents a unique and separate moment, decision, feeling or event that helped shape Bride and Groom over the years into the separate and unique individuals that they are today. As they pour their containers of sand into a shared vessel, these separate and independent individuals will cease to exist. Instead they will merge into a loving and supportive marital community. Or, as God’s says in His word: “The two become one.” Bride and Groom, just as the grains of sand can never be separated into their individual containers again, neither can you be separated again….a marriage bond that can’t be broken…Bride, the red sand represents all that you were, all that you are, and all that you will ever be because of the blood of Jesus Christ. Groom, the blue sand represents all that you were, all that you are, and all that you will ever be because of the purity of God lived out through you. The third container filled with yellow sand represents the foundation of your marriage through the strength and Fire of the Holy Spirit working in your lives.
(Minister pours the third container) Your spiritual beliefs are the foundation for your marriage. Bride, pour a portion of your sand into the shared vessel which will represent you as an individual. Groom, pour a portion of your sand into the shared vessel which will represent you as an individual. (Minister pours more of the third container) Let God forever support you in your relationship. Bride and Groom, now pour your remaining sand into the common vessel together to represent the joining of your two individual lives into this union of marriage with God as the Head of this union, this eternal bond.
Shall we Pray……