Post # 1
My finace and I were engaged this past April. We have chosen a date and have begun discussing plans for our wedding ceremony for next August. We both have 2 sons from our previous marriages, all 16 and above. We were thinking about having all of them be a part of our bridal party. He would have his two sons as his best man and groomsmen, and I was thinking of have my 2 sons walk me down the aisle. Then to have my boys stand on my side, with me, forgoing brides maids or maid of honor. Im just not sure how it would work out in the end. I feel I might be missing my girlfriends come time for the “getting ready” part of the day, the fun of it all. On the other hand, it would mean the world to me to have our four boys with us, uniting our families. I may not miss the girls after all! I do not want to have all 4 boys on his side, and me having to have 4 girls on my side, because I don’t really want a big wedding. At most, I would have 2 girls. Just not sure how it would work or how I feel about it, and was hoping for some input.. Thanks!!
Post # 3
Hi! The only person in our wedding is going to be my 12 yo daughter who will walk me down the aisle and then sit w/ my parents. I thought the same thing. she is not going to be much help getting in my dress etc. Even tho our wedding is immeskate family, I have convinced Fi to allow his niece who I am very close to (she’s an adult) to attend for the sole purpose of helping me out! She’s not a BM just an adult to help me w/ the little things
Post # 4
My mom and step dad have 5 kids between the two of them, 2 boys and 3 girls. My brother sister and myself stood behind my mom and step bro and step sis stood behind step dad. When they went to light the unity candle the each had ones to represent their respective side and then there were 5 slightly smaller candles and one rather large one they first lit the smaller ones and then each kid and the parents all lit the big one together. After the candle was lit the kids got all jumbeled up, his kids went behind my mom and we went behind my step dad. Got quite a few tears from guest on that. As far as my mom getting ready she had two unspoken bridesmaids who helped her get ready and did things like pick up the flowers and whatnot since I had to get a then 3 year old ready plus myself and my sister had a bunch of other stuff to do. Just a suggestion I am sure whatever you do will be wonderful.
Post # 5
My situation is not the same, but I know in your situation, I would deffenitley have all the boys, and like I am doing, I’m having a good frriend of mine act as a silent BM(she is in no way silent) 🙂 but she’s coming over the day of to get ready with us, and she is also helping my daughters immensley ..they are standing up for me…so it’s like having the best of both worlds, all of my children in the ceremony, my son is giving me away….and having my friends with me on the morning of.
Post # 6
@stariana: I think you should definitely have your boys stand with you, it will be a great ceremony for all of you and an awesome way to bring you all together as a family.
I understand wanting to include some girlfriends too – why don’t you pick 2 or 3 close friends to do readings at the ceremony? They can wear a certain color dress, and you can still have them get ready with you since they will be in the wedding just not in the traditional BM role?
Post # 7
My son and daughter were our two attendants. (And it was a same-sex wedding, so there was no “groom’s side” for my son to be on.) It was important to us to have them be the ones standing up with us. But there is no reason you can’t have parties or bonding time with people not in your wedding party. We had a close friend who was a reader and helped fluff NotFroofy’s train, even though she wasn’t in the wedding party as such. We also went with her to get manicures the night before the wedding.
Post # 8
Heck, my FH is having his Dad as his best man!