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We've been engaged for two years now, but (for whatever reason) I feel like sharing our "unromantic" proposal now.
For us, the entire thing was very romantic, but when we tell people, they usually say "oh..." because they were expecting my story to fall along the lines of: "Oh, we went on a picnic and he had a skywriter write 'Honeyoats, will you marry me?' in smoke."
Well, it didn't happen that way!
We were snuggled up on the couch of my college apartment one night, under a baby blue blanket, watching a movie in the livingroom. My roommates were party hopping in different buildings, and were coming in and out of the apartments drunk.
Somehow we got on the topic of someday getting married, and he said that if he could afford a wedding ring, he would have asked me to marry him. I was like "for serious? that's the only reason you haven't asked me?" I would have said yes, ring or not. I was all giddy and "OMG he wants to marry me."
We talked about ring prices, and the fact that I really didn't give a hoot about having a gigantic diamond, so it would probably only cost around $1,000. I think he thought they were like $5,000 minimum.
And then, we decided that we were engaged!
I looked at rings the next day to get a feel for what I wanted, and what I could get for our price range. I found a 1/3 kt princess cut solitaire on a gold band that I LOVED for $700.
So we bought it, and, in my apartment bedroom, he got on one knee and "asked me to marry him." lol! Of course I said no. (just joking)
Then we told everyone.
Bam! There's our "unromantic" story that people don't like to hear about. For me, though, I get butterflies and giddy when I think about that night all snuggled up on the couch, chatting about marriage.
<3
I really want to hear if anyone else had an unromantic proposal or a proposal that SOUNDS unromantic, but you loved.
Mine can be either depending on what parts I leave out. We got engaged on top of Mt Whitney (avatar pic), which sounds really romantic. But, if you expand the story...
We started the trek at 6am on Thursday, hiked for 8 hours before camping at 12,000ft in the freezing cold. We woke up at 5am on Friday with 2,500 vertical feet to go. We were both naseous from the altitude, so we didn't really eat, thinking we'd worry about it after the summit. About 7 hours of hiking later, we finally reach the summit.
PROPOSAL! YAY!
We turn around because it's starting to snow, and spend another 4 hours hiking back down to camp, where we finally choke down some food for the first time that day. We spent the next 6 hours hiking back to the car to get into the small town nearby at 12:30am to find out we absolutely will not be able to find anyone to sell us food (by then we were back to normal and STARVING). We go to bed hungry.
I joke that if it wasn't for the proposal, that would be the worst day of my life. But I wouldn't change it at all.
That is such a cute story and I do think its romantic. That sounds like something my FI and I would do but he decided to surprise me on our trip to Portugal last summer.
I got engaged on an average Thursday night. I got home, ate dinner, then went grocery shopping. FI (then boyfriend) called me to find out when I would be home.
I got home and started unpacking the groceries. He called me into the back room (our office/spare bedroom). We had just moved into our place a month before, so it was full of boxes we had yet to unpack. He told me we needed to start unpacking the boxes. I asked if he was crazy as it was 9:30pm, I hadn't put away groceries yet, and I still had to make lunches/dinner for the next day!
He kept prodding me until I was ready to punch him out, saying come on, just one box, please? I couldn't figure out why he was pressuring me so much. I said no way, and started walking out of the room. He said to me, "how about just this one little box then?" I turned around to see him holding a little purple ring box.
I opened the box and saw this georgeous engagement ring. It didn't even register what was happening, so I kept just asking what was going on. He said, "wanna get married?" -yup, his exat words. I asked if this was for real, and he said, "does it look like it's for real?" so I said, "well you're not down on one knee, so I don't know." He refused to get on one knee, but he said, "if you don't believe me, ask your dad".
He had called my dad for his permission while I was at the grocery store. This was so important to me as he knows I'm such a daddy's girl.
So that was it, the proposal that started with me wanting to punch him out, to feeling so incredibly happy! I love it and wouldn't want it any other way!
@baliahi1029: BAHAHA! I'm so sorry, that's terrible. At least it makes for one amazing story! One of my good friends and her husband did their proposal on a mountain summit, too, and they also have a story about how miserable it was. Their dog almost fell to it's death, and at one point she just started bawling.
Someone should offer a disclaimer for mountaintop proposals! :)
@honeyoats22: Oh yeah, I left out that I was definitely crying by the end. And we had to shout while we were stumbling along after dark to keep bears away. It was pretty hilarious, but only in retrospect.
@baliahi1029: The best miserable life moments are the ones that make hilarious stories later on.
I love your story, I think that's how proposals should be, IMO. A couple sitting and talking about the future together and deciding yep, they want to spend their lives together. The whole concept of a woman sitting around 'waiting' for a guy to decide when HE is ready really annoys me....anyhoo, my FI and I decided together that we would get engaged but he didn't want it to be official until he 'asked' me. he had planned on surprising me on vacation but that went all wrong so after that we just chose a date together because we were incredibly busy, wouldn't really have any time to ourselves so we picked a date and agreed that that would be the proposal day and that he would get to ask. but even that day we were really busy, we only had about 1 1/2 hours to ourselves, as my family was about to come back to where we were staying. so we were really rushing around, I jumped in the shower, then ran around lighting candles while he cooked dinner really fast (you should have seen him chopping those tomatoes!), then we ate and he asked me and that was that! so not particularly romantic at all - lol! and then afterwards when my family came back I said 'we just got engaged!' and they went 'oh, right. Oh, congratulations' and there was a weird silence. ha ha!!! so i often don't give the 'true' version because people are disappointed - I just say it happened when we were away and leave it at that!
I had told him everthing including this silly lil dream I had when I was a little girl that the boy (I was a child then) of my dreams would slip in through my window while I slumbered (again, little girl) and put a beautiful ring on my finger (back then it was an emrald) and I never knew till I woke in the morning..... and would have to guess and dream of who my admirer was. I told him this dorky story around march of 2008 and forgot I told him. Dec 28th of 2009, as I slept..... he slipped a ring...THE ring on my finger...and I woke and rubbed my thumb across my finger and to my utter shock.... a ring was there!! Well, apparently he was fake sleeping for hours and heard my gasp and quickly leapt up, came to my side of the bed and said my full first and middle name and told me he could not live without me and asked if I would grow old with him!! I was...dumb founded and again... like when we first met, could hardly speak... I uttered..."of course"........ so in saying that, I guess technically I was asleep for most of it. The key is that I loved it and it made me feel amazing that he remembered.
I actually ruined what was supposed to be a romantic proposal. We had hiked up to the top of Elk Mountain, which has an amazing view. However, my fiance was really eager to propose, so instead of waiting until May to go up, he decided to go up in March, when the mountain was still covered in snow. So by the time we finished the two hour climb to the top I was freezing and sore (from slipping on ice the whole way up) so I was just very grumpy and said I wanted to go straight back down again, and I wouldn't stay at the top.
Later that night I realized what I had ruined and we ended up just talking about it and I asked to at least see my ring and I put it on my finger and that was it, I just kept the ring.
DH and I were walking to Blockbuster on a summer evening. Mid-stride he just looked at me and said, "Marry me." And I said, "Yes". And then we smiled at each other and kissed, and continued on our way to rent some movies.
No ring, no down on one knee, no formality. It was perfect.
About a year later he had had an engagement ring custom made for me, and of course when it was finished, he didn't tell me but insisted we go out for dinner. He jokingly pulled out the ring box at the table and got down on one knee, saying "Will you marry me?" with this giant smirk on his face, acting like we weren't already engaged. Our waiter came by just then and said loudly, "Oops, am I interrupting something?" and then everyone stared. I wanted to die. I remember hissing something along the lines of, "Yes, yes, you know I will, now would you get off the damn floor?" and thankfully once DH was sitting in his chair again everyone went back to ignoring us. Such a jerk, lol.
FI and I have been together 8 years this past Monday, and I always knew I wanted to marry him. He wasn't sure about the whole getting married business, but there was so much about him that I loved and I knew it was worth waiting for him, so I did.
In June we were sitting in our living room hanging out and talking when the topic of marriage came up. We were discussing the fact that we were basically married already, except without the legalities. W talked about the benefits of marriage and what kind of wedding we would have if we did it. He said that I was the best part of his life and that we should get married. So, we kind of decided then that we were engaged. It was more an outloud thought than a proposal.. haha.
Of course, I had been looking at rings for years before this, just because it was fun to do. I had an idea for what I wanted and we discussed a budget. I found 3 rings I loved showed them to him and asked him what he thought. He picked the one that was secretly my favorite and said that it was "very me" and that we should get it. I got an elongated cushion-cut pink amethyst set in a thin, rose gold micropave diamond band. I love it and him and can't wait for our non-traditional wedding, whenever it may be. :)
Alot of people think mine is pretty un-exciting, but for me and FI it was so "us". I was one of those girls that was waiting and waiting and waiting for ring. I pouted and moped around when someone else got engaged before I did (ps..we dated for 5.5 yrs before he put a ring on it). I was always expecting it on a bday or holiday, but my FI is smart..he knew I would expect it on days like that so he did it on a random Wednesday at 4pm in the middle of our bedroom lol! He suprised me alright! When I called to tell my friends they didnt believe me at first! Anyways, I loved it...would I have loved something over-the-top romantic that costs tons of $$ for him to pulll of? Yea...but the bottom line is, I wanted him to ask on one knee with a ring in hand..I didnt care where it happened lol!!!
FI proposed to me in our living room on a Wednesday night. We'd just watched some How I Met Your Mother that we Netflixed and I was on the couch in my pj's. He left the room for a few minutes, and when he came back in, he got down on both knees in front of me and said he needed to ask me something. I honestly thought he was just being silly so I smiled and was all "what are you doing?" when he brought out the ring and asked me.
It doesn't make for an amazing story, but he knew I wanted a low key proposal so it was perfect for me.
I think its romantic! Your man truly loves you and wanted you for life! Theres a lot of waiting bees that would probably love to have a guy as willing as yours lol!
Aww I think its awesome! Can you add some ring porn to the thread?!
my then boyfriend of a few weeks gave me keys to his house and said i would like yoiu to move in, i said not without a ring, he said ok. later that night (tmi, during sex no less) he said im going to get you that ring and a few weeks later it was on my finger - yeah honey, so romantic :)
@eloping: hilarious!! i always wonder if that's how my parents got engaged because i STILL haven't heard what their engagement story was (they're divorced now) and someone once said to me 'I bet your dad asked her while they were having sex' and of course I was horrified but now I think that's probably what happened cuz why else haven't they told anyone?!
I used to get kinda self conscious, because so many other women in my college classes have huge rocks, but I got over that pretty quickly. :) I thought about upgrading someday, but I probably wont... maybe 10th anniverary if we have extra money we have to get rid of hahaha.
@honeyoats22: come live in the UK! most e-rings over here are that size - including mine! when I went to the US a few months ago i shocked at how tiny my ring suddenly seemed compared to everyone else's... over here it's a good size!! and btw, it's beautiful and pretty similar to mine (i don't have a photo to post tho)
I had to redo the patch panel in my server room at work over the weekend, so my FI (then boyfriend) offered to come help. At some point during the process, I was getting frustrated and angry, so FI left to go pick up my ring. I knew this, we'd picked it out together, but he was planning saving it until we went to visit his family over the holidays (it was November). When we finally left, we got in his car and I nearly sat on the bag the ring was in. I handed it to him and said "Here, put this in the back, I almost crushed it." He handed it back and said "No, it's for you." He ended up asking me to marry him, there in his car in the parking lot at work. I had had such a bad day he thought it was the perfect way to cheer me up. It was wrapped in a box with a ribbon and he accidentally undid the ribbon pulling it out of the bag, it was so cute how nervous he was.
Totally "unromantic."
because so many other women in my college classes have huge rocks,
im seeing lovely young ladies (nieces friends) with huge rocks and more and more im thinking "is it real". i was looking at a 2ct stone with our jewler the other week and it was $35K and i cant imagine a 20yr guy doing a trade apprenticeship (about $300 per week take home pay) who lives with his parents affording that.
@londongal: i know! no one has ever asked me our propostal story so if i ever do get asked im going to stutter im sure
@londongal If I could go back in time, honestly, I wouldn't even get a diamond. They're nice, but sapphires and rubys are more "me."
@honeyoats22: I was the same as you in my taste in jewellery but ended up with a diamond because it's the least likely to get scratched or somehow ruined. i'm the clumsiest person in the world (which is what ruined FI's first attempt at proposing) so although i originally wanted tanzanite which is similar to sapphire, we decided a diamond is safest because i really cannot scratch it, break it, chip it or anything else! i love it sitting there all sparkly anyway....
@eloping: you better come up with a good story because one day your kids will ask you! or even just someone random at work or something - make up something good, ha!
Our "official" proposal was pretty unromantic. :)p I asked to borrow his coat at the restaurant on Valentine's Day, and felt the ring box in the pocket. I gave him a Look, and he asked me "well, now that you know, do you have any ideas how to do it?". : D LOL! He ended up doing it after he dropped me off at home...but only after threatening to make me wait longer (I'd already guessed two/three prior proposals before they happened) so it would be a 'surprise', and I joke-punched him. Hee!
Our unofficial proposal was a little more romantic. He gave me the spinner ring he always wore as a "promise ring", and a necklace to wear it on for my birthday. It was a complete surprise! Unfortunately, it was cut a little short because I had plans and had to run almost right away, but he was so sweet. : )
all your story's are very romantic :) It's so romantic that your men want to spend forever with you! My boyfriend and I have talked about getting married in the next couple of years but in his eyes we will be officially engaged when he has a ring to ask me with.
We were out in the park just resting for a bit on these old steps... and he asked me. And I said yes... lol that's it.
I loved it because of how much it meant to us at the time. We were under a lot of pressure and I was chronically ill and having a hard day. Promising to be together forever= perfect time in my mind!
Yes, it SOUNDS unromantic... but that's only because most people don't understand what was going on at the time.
Mine was ordinary. On our anniversary, lounging around our apartment, he just asked. But he always says the sweetest things and this was no exception. Plus, doing such a thing in public is very unlike us. He didn't even get down on one knee, which caused some people I know to become disgruntled when I told the story. Funny the things people think are important!
This isn't what I had imagined but I do love him.. and happy we are together! I guess I wouldn't change it.. ok I lied.. I might have.. He said he was so nervous he just wanted to get it over with..
We were driving around, he took me to best buy and said lets park on the end so we can walk some (I'm all about the losing weight). Then I decided lets not go in.. so he said lets go to the mall.. I said sure so he did the same thing.. lets park far away.. so he decided to go on the top roof of the mall garage and parked in a way back corner... starts talking to me.. and says and this is why I want to ask you to marry me and pulls out a beautiful ring. No one knee.. in a car.. on top of a mall garage. We are in our mid 20's.
Awww, this might be my most favourite thread of them all. I laughed so hard at the mountain proposals, hahaha.
I started off my ruining his first proposal attempt - there are two parks by our house, and my boyfriend suggested we go for a walk. So we headed to park #1 and went for a walk, which is pretty normal for us and not suspicious at all. There were people EVERYWHERE, so he started talking about how we should head to park #2. And I kept saying "That's silly! We're already at this park! What's wrong with this park? I'm not driving to another park!"
So we went home and unbeknownst to me, the ring went back in its hiding place. A few days later, we went to park #2 and he was successfully able to get me alone for about 5 seconds on a trail in the park. He was mad that there were two guys fishing in the spot that he had WANTED to propose, so instead it was next to a giant dead uprooted tree. He definitely surprised the hell out of me though, so he gets full marks for that! He says he's just happy I said yes (and quickly!) haha.
@honeyoats22: OMG mine was kind of like yours. We had an arguement and he finally blurted out "if I had a ring, I would ask you to marry me right now, but I don't. I want to marry you". I didn't say yes or anything at that time and didn't really take what he said 100%. Then he had planned to ask my dad for my hand on Mother's day when we were meeting my parents because my dad asked him to bring some shirts for him. So my dad decided he didn't want the shirts. Fail. haha. So then he called me dad and asked him over the phone instead. My dad proceeded to call me and tell me that my FI asked him, but I think he was a little confused because my dad asked me what I said. So I told my dad he hadn't asked me yet. So a month goes by and we are out to dinner. I started asking about where I should live since my lease was ending. He said something along the lines of "well you don't want to live with anybody until you're engaged, so maybe you should look for a place?". I got really mad and blurted out "FINE, I'll live alone forever", then I started crying. He then told me that he asked my dad, and I said "I know". So he said "why are you crying then!". A couple weeks later we went to pick out a ring and a week later he picked it up with his parents. I came home from a busy day and he took the remote for the stereo out of his pocket, started playing "on bended knee" by Boyz to men and asked me to marry him. Phew...that was a long story haha.
Ooh! Ooh! Pick me! Mine was horribly unromantic, but pretty awesomely us, also.
I knew he had the ring, and it was sitting in our house somewhere. For years, I had told him I really wanted a special, big proposal. So I kept waiting. Finally, I told him I really didn't care... all that mattered was that he wanted to marry me.
Fast forward a week or so, we come from work (FI picks me up from the metro station), and he had had a terrible day. The worst. Before we even got in the door, out of the blue, he told me, "I really want to propose to you. Would that be okay?" I responded with, "If you want to.." And he unlocked the door, and we went inside. I changed into my jammies and started loading the dishwasher. I surely didn't think he'd do it while I was in my jammies! Well, I bent down to put a plate in, and there he is on one knee with my ring. I'm seriously shocked. He told me, "I love you so much. The best part of every day is coming home to you, and I always want to come home to you. Will you marry me?" I said, "Really? Are you sure?" He said yes, and I said yes, and then he said, "Now go call your dad!" haha, Even now when I look back on it, I smile and laugh... yeah, that's my guy! So bursting with love that he proposed in front of our dishwasher!
I was packing his suitcase for a vacation to see his parents and chatting with him when he said "I can't wait to bring my fiancee home to mom", I looked at him and he got down on one knee and asked me. Mind you we're in our pajamas with sportscenter on in the living room but I couldn't imagine anything else.
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