- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
Hello! Originally we were planning a huge wedding, out of state (across the country) for next summer. The budget and planning had started to get so overwhelming to me.
A few months ago, I started envisioning how nice it would be to have a small, family-only wedding (about 50 guests if even). As we had already paid off the venue, my dream dress has been here for months just waiting to be worn, the dj and officiant are family friends, so would do that as our wedding gift. I kinda mentioned the idea to my mom, who initially said that I would offend so many people. I explained that FI and I are private people, and don’t really like to be the center of attention, and that it was starting to feel like more of a “show”, than our personal, romantic wedding.
Well, I tossed that thought out the window and just figured I’d keep the original date next for next summer, and go all out so we could invite everyone.
Then….surprise! I got a BFP ! FI and I have planned to have a baby as soon as the wedding was over “even if I was pregnant at the wedding” (is what I would say). At this point, I knew we should move our date this August. I know that once the baby is here, I’m going to spoil it, and I would feel guilty spending so much money on the big all-out wedding we were planning for next summer.
So I brought it up again to my mom (without telling her I’m pregnant, at this point) and said I was serious, that we are cutting the list to only family, and have set the date in August. At first she was upset and carried on about how people would be offended, and then said “the way you’re rushing this, people are going to think you’re pregnant!” and I was like “well, let’s see..I’m engaged, I’m 30..if they’re going to be judgmental, then why would I want them at the wedding anyways?”. Left it at that. I told my parents about 2 weeks later via a video of me surprising my friends with the announcement. They were over the top happy!
So now, all is good. We get the small wedding we really wanted, and the baby we had been planning for “as soon as the wedding is over”. It’s just funny how it all worked out 🙂
The only thing I’m worried about is people calling/emailing ect upset that they weren’t invited (we didn’t even send out save the date’s and THEN cut the list,…we just changed the whole thing). Meanwhile, the family is happy that we are getting married, and most we invited will be there. For the family that is unable to come from TX, we will come back and have a low key reception. But first things first… yay! I’m pregnant!