- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2012
So, here is the short version of the very long process (one and a half years) of me planning our wedding. My FI and I are paying for everything out of pocket, excluding the reception for which my dad is paying for. So, around the first week of March we sent out invites. We knew certain people would have issues with them because only married couples or couples who had been together for a very long time (pretty mich the folks who are considered ‘common law’ married) were given two seats. Most people were fine with this and understood that we have a budget we are trying to maintain. $36/person doesn’t sound like a lot, but we are trying not to be greedy and put all that responsibility on my dad.
Anyways, flash forward to about two or three weeks ago, I called one of my friends just to talk as we normally do. (Side bar, our relationship hadn’t been too great since she had been living a lifestyle I didn’t agree with. She was dating a married man, and had all sorts of random guys coming to her house. I’m not judging her, but it just doesn’t agree with my lifestyle.) The first thing that comes out of her mouth is, “Oh, I see you put me down for one, but I marked myself for two.” I was like “you did what???” Her response was, “Oh, you didn’t think I was going to bring a date?” So, I explained to her the reasons for this, and we moved on. (Side bar, her and her boyfriend have only been together for 3 months).
So, let’s go back to last week. She and I meet up for lunch. The whole thing was very awkward. She ended up asking me about the wedding and about RSVP’s. I told her our deadline was April 21, and we were still waiting on some people to respond. Immediately she is like, “Oh so my boyfriend can come!” Where did I say that at? I explained to her again that this may be highly unlikely because were almost at our cap. Lunch ended, I brushed this off.
So the next day, I get an RSVP card from a mutual friend of ours who basically did the dame as friend #1 and decided she wanted to mark over m original number and add her boyfriend as well. WTF!!!! Both of them have my phone number, and could have called to ask. Instead, they decide to just fill in an extra person and expected me to accommodate them. I found this so rude. Then she had the nerve to write on the back of the card (I know things are tight, but there is no way I could explain to him that he couldn’t come.” First off I don’t know any men who are jumping up and down with delight wanting to attend the weeding of someone they don’t even know.
By this this time I am pissed, so I send Friends #1 and #2 a text saying, “Ladies, I want to thank you for getting your RSVP’s back on time. I truly understand and respect that you want to bring your significant others. However, we would appreciate it if you could stick to the original number of seats reserved for you. Thank you for respecting our wishes for our wedding day.” So an hour or so passed (I knew they were on the phone talking about me) and I get a message from Friend #1 saying “I am cancelling. I hope you enjoy your day.” Almost instantly I get a message from Friend #2 saying “I am unwilling to compromise my love for yours.” Again WTF!!!
I was hurt, and couldn’t believe they would put boyfriends over our 6 years of friendship. I feel that they were not even thinking of me anyways, only what they wanted. I unfriended them both on FB and am over this situation completely. Yet I still ask my self was a 3 month relationship and boyfriend really worth them deciding on not coming to our wedding? Has anyone else had any similar experiences?