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That cake, to me, says classic early 90s wedding. But honestly... whatever makes a couple happy! :)
for my tastes yes... but.... i still see these at italian weddings (my family is italian) without any issues/comments
@Corgi.. heheheheh, the 90's is classic these days :)
Yeah, it's not really my first pick but he was really excited about it. I thought early 90s too but I don't have the heart to tell him.
what did he get excited about specifically when he saw it? is it about having various cakes without them being on top of eachother? he's gotta give you some clues here because i understand what its like when a groom actually starts giving his imput - you want to make it happen for them
90s? That's 80s! But whatevs. If he likes it and you don't mind it, at least it's fun. :)
I'm on the same page as eloping -- I think its the stair steps and the very large topper that make it look dated and a bit tacky, IMO. But I think he may just like the traditional look. Many grooms aren't up on wedding trends, and that cake screams big, traditional wedding. So maybe not the stair steps or fountain underneath, but incorporate traditional details like all white frosting with that textured looking piping rather than ribbons or more modern details.
I'm with eloping--ask him what features of the cake he really likes. Maybe he likes the columns/separate tiers look, or the fact that it's so big.
I would definitely gently point out to him that it's kind of a dated looking wedding cake--maybe it doesn't exactly fit your theme now, but with modifications, it could.
I remember when I would visit the mall when I was about 10 years old and they would have wedding shows in the middle "kiosks" and I dreamt that someday I would have a wedding cake with plastic stairs going from 1 cake to the next with a big water fountain underneath... alas, that was 15 years ago.
I think it is really outdated and, in fact, I am surprised that the baker even had that as her sample because I don't see a lot of people going towards that style anymore. Most cakes we see nowadays are multi-tiered and stacked on top of each other.
With that said, I see a lot of individual cakes placed on pedestals of all different sizes and I think that is a really cool look. If that is what your FI is into then just ditch the stairways and make it more modern looking.
Also, and this might come out wrong for lack of a better way to say it... but I love how much you are taking your FI's consideration into this cake decision. I know my DH wishes I was a little more like you in our planning days... it had to be my way or the highway. Sometimes I forgot that it was OUR wedding and not just mine, but I had a lot of difficulty cooperating on certain aspects as I am very into design. Of course, there was plenty we did compromise on, but it was decisions like this that I would tend to not even bring up and just decide on my own for fear of what he would come up with. He had some extremely crazy ideas!!
Thank you everyone for your feedback. When I asked him why he liked this cake in particular, he said he liked the pillars and stairs. LOL...so much for compromising with the idea of taking out the stairs. I think the main reason why he likes it is that we haven't seen it in any of the weddings we've been to. He hasn't clued in that this is because the cake is dated hence nobody uses the style.
We have some time before we have to finalize the cake so I'm going to try and look for modern versions of this cake. If not, well I'll just suck it up. Afterall, it is just cake, right?
You have the best outlook on this! I would have laughed my ass off at my husband!
If you really don't want this, you could look for some pictures of the cake and weddings from the 80's and 90's and show him that it is outdated. Then, have some pictures of cakes you like that are somewhat of a compromise to show him.
the wedding I was at last weekend (of a young, stylish couple) had a cake with pillars, stairs going over to the groom's cake, and a (blue) fountain underneath. It was a little unusual to see these days but I don't think anyone but the most recent brides thought anything of it... if he likes it, don't stress! :)
@eloping the 90s totally are classic! :) I went to a 90s party just this past saturday, it was great! heh.
yeah.. my parents had this cake at their wedding in 1984! lol but if you like it, go for it! The 80's are making a come back
You are handling this so well :)
My FH would probably think this was cool too. But I agree, it reminds me of a cake that would be in the movie "The Wedding Singer" (a classic!)
It is a little dated but I have seen a more modern spin on that you could do. My friend had a wrought iron base made instead of the cheap plastic ones. It was very pretty and elegant looking. I would try to find something you both like.
Yeah, it might not be the most recent cake, but if he's really that excited about it, I would just go for it. If he's willing to play around with the design to make it closer to something you would like then great, but if not, I wouldn't stress over it. The cake is definitely not the highlight of a wedding day.
80's throwback!! Aww that's so cute that he got SO excited over this cake!! I love that you're letting him have this one :)
@catlady, you've got such a great attitude about it! i saw a similar cake once and i promptly and duitfully informed the boy that we were NOT having a cake like that. lol. thankfully he agreed with my reasoning. i did list reasons. i think he was more surprised that i reacted so violently against cake since i really love cake. lol
I agree with what everyone else has said and I think it's great he's getting involved. What if you could compromise in keeping the pillars but doing away with the stairs (or at least only doing half as many stairs and maybe your baker could find a less "bulky" looking set)?
I tried to find a more modern picture for you of this and the only thing I came up with was this:
It's not much better lol but the cakes are stacked ontop of one another and it still has the pillars and stairs he likes. I would do away with the fountain either way but that's just my opinion. Good luck! I hope you can make this cake into your dream cake for both of you
I saw a similar cake in a recent catalogue. I think it was promoted for a quincenara (what I always term as a "groomless" wedding where girls celebrate their 15th birthday with mass and reception, complete with coreographed dance and "court" of attendants).
retro! it's retro! if you dig it, go for it! (after all, what is TODAY's trendy cake but tomorrow's "dated" one, right? why go with the herd? get the cake you like!)
IMO verrrrrrrrrrrrry dated, though I've seen two couples still chose this, but hey w/es. Lol... maybe the lady's grooms picked out their cake stuff too!
the bad news is that your FI likes it. Shouldn't disappoint him though....
I remember seeing a picture from a wedding and the cake was that style - it was a very old picture =)
If I were to go to a wedding that had that cake .. I wouldn't think anything badly of it! I am not really judgy in that way though.
Everyone keeps saying: Everything old is new again! =)
I agree with everyone else, it is very 90's. But it is YOUR wedding. If you and the dude like it, then GET it!
It's so sweet that you want to make sure your FI has a say! If it was Mr. Doxie, it'd be an immediate, "uhhhh, no."
I think you should compile a collection of photos of cakes that you like, and show him that you can have something unique without it being a throwback to the 80's. Have him look through it and see if there's anything more modern that he might be drawn to!
I've been waiting all day to comment on this thread (my work blocks commenting on here). I have to say, that cake and that style of cake in general is severely outdated and quite unattractive. Maybe you have really nice friends, but if any of my friends had a cake like that I would make fun of it. Sorry, but I just think you (and moreso your FI) need some brutal honesty. I think it's great that he wants to be involved, but you gotta steer him in the right direction.
I think that cake is awesome. It depends who the couple is with it at their wedding and also the society they keep.....for example, if one of my friends had that cake at their wedding, I would know it was meant to be totally retro and funny and over the top. And I would love it and think it was utterly hilarious. However, I run with an offbeat crowd. Were I more of a country club sort of person, I would probably think it were 'outdated'. It just depends. If sounds to me like you're not overly concerned with being 'on trend' and you're totally right, it's just a cake. I say get your groom's bad ass 80's cake and rock it!
Bringing the 80's back with that one - hey they're doing it in fashion so why not in wedding cakes!
Will it mean anything if you tell him it is dated?
can you negotiate with him about the stairs but offer him some alternatives for the cake layout?
maybe something like this?
edit: pic didnt work, heres the link http://fabu-luxe.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/08/image-thumb54.png
maybe show him some of those that YOU like, and maybe he'll go "oooooh".
it's likely that that's his best impression of weddings - perhaps those he attended as a kid? :)
looking for a design from the 40's for bridal shower. or maybe something that looks like a mixer?
Hate to say it but, yeah. A little dated. But even so, that is just MY opinion and if you guys like it, who cares what my oppinion is!
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FI and I were at a wedding show last weekend and we decided on our cake vendor. While we were signing the papers with the vendor, a particular cake caught my FI's eye. Attached is a pic that looks very similar to what he likes.
Here's my question: Is this cake style a little out-dated?